My Father in law took us out on a day trip and I was under the impression that we were going to get breakfast first so I didn't eat breakfast. I get shaky when I don't eat for more than 3-4 hours and incredibly irritable. Well we never got around to breakfast, and then about 11 I commented, where are we going for lunch? He said he would look for a place then 12:30 I said again I really need lunch asap! 30 minutes later we finally got lunch. I like my inlaws but this always happens with them, weather on a day trip, or at their house. Dinner generally doesn't hit the table until 8-9pm even through they plan it to be 5-6. If it happened once, I would understand but they don't seem to get it. I told them that I get shaky if I don't eat often and they said "Oh." I feel like I didn't get my point across. It makes me feel like throwing a hissy next time but I know that is not the right thing to do. Help.
2007-09-05 14:38:31 · 25 answers · asked by TennesseeGirl 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You're right, throwing a hissy is not the right thing to do. If they make a habit out of eating later than you would like to, carry a snack in your purse to tide you over while you're waiting. A granola bar, some crackers, whatever...but it's not their responsibility to make sure you get fed in a timely fashion, it's yours.
2007-09-05 14:44:15 · answer #1 · answered by Vbonics 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Knowing that these people don't eat or need to as often as you, start taking a care package with you. I also get shaky and irritable if I don't have a little something every few hours and do carry granola bars or the like to hold me over. They don't have to work around your eating issues even if it would be nice if they offered snacks but you can't make them. Don't continue to get angry, just carry your own stuff. It's certainly worked for me.
2007-09-05 21:47:13 · answer #2 · answered by dawnb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, to be perfectly honest, it sounds like they might not ever 'get it'. You've told them more than once about your eating habits (if you'll allow me that term), yet they don't seem to get it.
Unless they are incredible impressionable, I don't think throwing a hissy fit will solve anything.
My suggestion is simply this: keep telling them, and if you know in advance that you're going on another road trip (or you're going to spend the day with your in-laws) then bring a snack to tide you over until you actually eat.
Hope you figure this out. :)
2007-09-05 21:48:36 · answer #3 · answered by firesnow_angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is the way they are. I know lots of families that eat whenever they get around to it. My family is like that. Sometimes we eat at 5:00 pm, sometimes 9:30 pm. And often we skip breakfast. It's hard for them to realize how important it is for you - because theyv'e probably been like that their whole life. And being older than you...it's hard to change or to think about it that much. Just take a snack with you when you are going to be with them. A snickers bar, protein bar, bag of fritos, or some crackers w/peanut butter. Better than getting them all upset with you.
2007-09-05 21:48:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't see you as something they plan around. You haven't asserted you wishes enough to where they will take notice of you. The fix you're in . This, by the way, may go on into other area's of your life with them and the eating thing is only the most apparent.You must take a stand! Of anything. You must be willing to be unpopular--Make dinner yourself, and tell Them what time to come--Take charge,..then go swimming..
2007-09-05 22:06:48 · answer #5 · answered by G M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it this way you are use to eating all the time or often maybe they don't eat that often and it's hard for them to adjust there living style to yours not on purpose it's just they are use to somthing that you are not. Take it like this say u ate all the time with them they would probably never eat because they are not hungry while you eat everything just an opinion when around them have food or somthing avaliable
2007-09-05 21:46:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would start keeping a light snack on-hand. Something like granola bars or fruit. Just keep it in your purse or bag so its handy for occasions like that. Its easier ( and healthier) to be responsible for your own impending shakiness than to wait and hope that the food lands on the table soon enough.
2007-09-06 14:14:10 · answer #7 · answered by undone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know this about about them then eat before you go! Carry a snack. I dont think it's rude, however, people forget about 80 percent of what they hear. Dont take it personal but its true and after 48 hours the statistics go up! Fall out on them once and they will never forget to feed you again!
2007-09-05 21:48:41 · answer #8 · answered by Laurie P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe next time you could eat breakfast first and pack yourself a nice picnic basket for when you get hungry. Your in-laws are not showing decent hospitality or sympathy so you'll just have to take care of yourself since they've shown that they don't see the point.
2007-09-05 21:46:04 · answer #9 · answered by oogabooga37 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know they they often get dinner on the table later then they say, the just eat a little something so it can hold you over until dinner.
2007-09-05 21:47:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋