2007-09-05 14:27:32 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
i have 3 kids one on the way.
ages 11 & 9
and 1 1/2 yrs and soon to be delivering #4.
so i have both 'close in age' children, and 'far apart in age' children.
i can say that it's hard at times, and not so bad at other times. it's not really THEIR ages that is going to make the difference but rather they way YOU handle things.
if you are prone to not dealing w/stress or crazy schedules well then it could be difficult. if you are more organized and proficent esp. in crazy situations..you'll do fine.
everything is more so trial and error when you have kids close in age.
you've had your first run w/the older one so it's much like riding a bike when the next one comes along. you find your groove and stick w/it.
i actually love having my two oldest close in age, they play together (and fight together as siblings do) and are close enough in age to relate to each other, BUT they are also BIG brothers to my daughter who is much younger...they are great w/her and are learning how to care for a young child at the same time by helping me around the house w/her (changing diapers, getting her a favorite toy, reading to her, or just playing w/her.). something which i think is important for all kids to learn so they make for better adults and eventually parents.
my next one is due in about 3 weeks, so i will again have 2 that are close in age. all in all..i don't really have a preference for ages of seperation between siblings.
2007-09-05 14:41:17 · answer #1 · answered by ☆MWφM☆ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 5 close in age. They are 13, 11, 9, 6 & 4 and I wouldn't want it any other way. They are friends to each other and I feel like I can be a good mother to them because I see what their brother or sister has just experienced in life. Hope this helps!!
2007-09-05 21:46:50 · answer #2 · answered by jerrrsj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its great for those who can handle it but seriously I struggle soooooo much with my 3 month old Im not willing to try again till shes in school. Although I have noticed that kids who are close in age really keep each other occupied where as only children dont have that company to keep them busy. So if they are close in age it might be easier in some aspects.
2007-09-05 22:23:28 · answer #3 · answered by lovelylady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a one year old and a two year old. They are about 11 and a half months apart.
I found it hard and daunting at first, but now rewarding. They are the best of friends (can be best of enemies too when wanting the same toy!) and really enjoy each others company. I wouldn't do it any other way.
In fact, when my girls are both in kindy (soon) we will look to have two more close together again. Then, that's it! lol.
Everyone has their opinions about what you should and shouldn't do, but for me i just plod along. Take advice when i think it great and leave it for when i think it's crap.
My girls are often mistaken for twins now as they are able to wear each others clothes and shoes.
I was actually suposed to have three girls, my youngest was a twin. But we lost her. Now, that would have been quite a challenge...three under two!! but one i would have relished im sure. Thanks for your question.
2007-09-06 07:27:16 · answer #4 · answered by kelstar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my children very close to each other. My children are 20,18, and 16. They have a bond that is so incredable. They are very close to each other. It was a very busy(unstatement) time for their father and I. 3 babies, working full time, etc. But, the joy of not seeing sibling fights, etc. WONDERFUL. Maybe it was how we raised them, I don't know, but, I do not regret having my kids 19- 20 months apart.
2007-09-05 23:04:53 · answer #5 · answered by dawnw1000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Initally it was a bit daunting but you just do what you have to. My boys are 15 months apart. There are bad days but the joy of having two growing children around outweigh the challenges. You have to be realistic about what will get done and when. It helps to be organised or become so quickly.
2007-09-05 22:46:21 · answer #6 · answered by Mim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tiring, tiring and tiring....
My first born is 2 years old and the second one is 4 1/2 months. Both are drama queens, both like me to pay attention to them and them only. I haven't got a single good night sleep for 2 years. After each pregnancy, I gained 10kg. I'm overweight, I'm tired all the time, I'm left to attend my kinds alone most of the time coz my husband often work extra hours.
But I heard things do get better in time. Hope they can be the best of friend when they grow-up.
2007-09-05 22:11:21 · answer #7 · answered by cumiciki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first 2 are 18 months apart, and let me tell you, there were times when I thought I'd go crazy! Now, my boys are 5 & 3 and are best buddies, so I wouldn't change anything for the world. They are very close and get along very well.
2007-09-05 21:36:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, you'll never know whether or not it will be successful until you meet your kids. Some kids love having siblings and play together marvelously. Some siblings are pulling hair all the time.
My sister & I are 19 months apart. Mom says we played well together, but I just remember the fighting, esp once we got to be teenagers. But once we moved out of the same house, we became best friends.
debbie
2007-09-05 22:13:07 · answer #9 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens! I have 2 neices and 1 nephew and between each of them is only 18 months - when they were young my sister had such a hard time of wanting to scream but now that they are older they are all best of friends.
Im 3 months pregnant with my 2nd one and I have a son who is 10 months...... so I guess I have to be ready!
2007-09-05 21:43:32 · answer #10 · answered by Tara_05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋