Does " Im not ready for a relationship" really mean "im not ready for a relationship with YOU"
back story -
he is 38, i am 27 (so please no High School answers, thanks)
met 2 months ago. talked on the phone everyday (him calling me) saw each other a few times a week. slept over some weekends. everything was good, he was affectionate, nice. About a month in i told him I "liked" him. he said he wasnt ready for a relationship and went MIA for a few days (the only time since we met that i hadnt talked with him at least once a day) when he re-appeared he said (among other things) that he didnt want me to fall in love with him, but still wanted to be friends. weve talked since then, but only every few days. ive seen him, but its been different. I guess what i want to know from you guys is: did i scare him away? is he just not into me in that way? or do i give it time? Im about to just give it up (it does occur to me that maybe that is what he would like me to do) what do ya'll think
2007-09-05 14:11:03 · 7 answers · asked by sttunnner 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im well over 38 and i have no idea what a guy means when he is not ready for a relationship --- what have you had up until now --- chopped liver???? --- maybe he just does not want any commitment "issues" ---- maybe he is just scared of being hurt --- sorry to me he has too many issues that he is not discussing with you and may never discuss --- and yes maybe that is what he is hoping --- that you will break it off so he is "not to blame" --- maybe all he wanted was a "friend with benefits" --- sorry and best wishes
2007-09-05 14:20:31 · answer #1 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think he is just not into you that way. You should (if you can) stay friends with him and find another guy. This might hurt but it's true. Also you might have scared him because he probably or not wasn't expecting for you to say that. He was just thinking of you two as friends. But don't worry lots of fish in the sea =) Good luck!
2007-09-05 21:17:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone for awhile. Usually when a guy says he doesn't want a relationship it means he doesn't want one with you. Don't take offense, he just isn't interested in what you are. Leave it alone. If he comes back ready for a relationship then great, if not, you've just saved yourself all that time wasted and possibly a lot of heartache.
2007-09-05 21:16:07 · answer #3 · answered by closgirl831 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It means he's not impressed with you and for you to move on. He's old enough to have had some really bad relationships and doesn't want to be "owned" by anyone. Men love their freedom and to give that up to someone who's just starting out, is too risky. Maybe it's better for you to look for a relationship with someone closer to your age.
2007-09-05 21:15:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the issue has nothing to do with you, he just doesn't seem ready to enter into something long term
2007-09-06 01:44:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends, either he's a really honest guy, and he just isn't ready yet, or he doesn't want a realationship. maybe you should ask him.
2007-09-05 21:16:49 · answer #6 · answered by ♥sydd 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he just thought u talkting so much made you fall in liove with him. so he just started talking less so u wouldnt like him anymore.
2007-09-05 21:18:54 · answer #7 · answered by IceM88 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋