Well I hope this gets more answers than my usual questions.
I really like this guy and this guy really likes me back. We slow danced at a school thing last Friday and he can't stop gazing at me or flirting with me. Then today I got to talk to his close friend. She said that he was having a problem with girls, he really liked two girls (this was last year) and they got mad at him when he went out with both of them. His friend said he could go out with as many girls as he wanted if he told them and wasn't commiting to be bf with just one. Now I am not comfortable with that. Is that weird? What would you do?
2007-09-05 13:37:12 · 9 answers · asked by Nails 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Give him th ebenefit of the doubt. Rumors should be forgotten. Or, you should be the one to figure out that he's a cheater.
2007-09-12 14:23:19 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No he is not a cheater.
If he did not commit to anyone why should he be limited to dating one person. Just as you are not limited at this point. He is doing what he is supposed to do. It is okay to go out and have fun with friends. You don't have to commit to someone just because they asked you out to dinner and a movie. You can take it for what it is an invitation to hang out together and enjoy the company for the evening. It takes time to get to know someone and make the decision on whether to pursue a relationship. Don't be quick to commit yourself to anyone without taking the time to get to know them.
Besides if you are still uncomfortable, if/when he asks you out go ahead and ask the question -- will you be seeing other people and base your decision on his response. It seems that he really likes you based on your note so I would keep things open and see where things lead. Those two girls probably were not right for him and he knew that which is why he continued to openly date and did not commit. Things could be different for both of you. You may be the "one".
To answer your question -- no he isn't doing anything wrong and no he is not a cheater. You can't cheat on a girlfriend you don't have. so . . . don't read too much into that.
Hope this helps.
2007-09-13 20:14:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you don't know if that girl is telling truth or not. Maybe she likes him. I'm not saying you should ignore what she is saying just go with your gut feeling. I was with a guy who your friend describe. He will tell me when he went to club if he danced with girls or talk to them etc but not consider me his gf and flirt with me and tell me he loves me. I had it with him and I dumped him. If he doesn't care for my feeling then whats the point to being together. He knew how I felt about him
2007-09-05 20:49:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he could have changed since then. that was a whole year ago. and you should just not worry about it enless yall start talking. and when yall FIRST start talking..make it clear to him that if this was just going to be a noncommitted thing...then you dont want to be a part of it. you just need to be straight forward with him. its the only way. that way if it is...you can end it before it starts so you dont get too hurt. if he says he wants a relationship and be your boyfriend then give him a shot...everyone desrves a chance...dont listen to other people. follow your instinct. if it says to give him a shot...then go for it.
2007-09-13 19:04:00 · answer #4 · answered by blondebaby11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay. ALL and yes ALL men/boys are going to cheat eventually, there is no such thing as a faithful man, it could be 30 years down the road whatever, he's eventually going to cheat. you just have to decide if hes worth it or not., if not find someone who is and when he does cheat, get presents and get over it. lol im being completly serious here.
2007-09-05 20:48:43 · answer #5 · answered by Kristina 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well he cheated in the past...but that dosent mean he will cheat on you. I think that yall should start dating and see how everything works out. If he cheats then break up with him but if he really loves you then he wont even think about cheating on you.
2007-09-13 17:56:34 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure that his friend is advising you from the heart or she's just telling you these things to scare you off and she can go after him?
2007-09-13 18:31:10 · answer #7 · answered by teriwilburn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He would definitly cheat on u. Dont go out with him. Just makeout with him and stuff. lol
2007-09-13 20:41:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
find someone else to be interested in
2007-09-13 05:30:54 · answer #9 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋