well my mother lives with us, my husband is a truckdriver so he's gone about 4 to 5 days at a time, and my mother is living with us and she's been such a great help with my 3 1/2 month old baby, I work as a waitress and do one shift a day( 5-6 hours) so he spend that time with her and she's very very great to him, but lately I started to notice that he's happier to see her than me, he's smiles at her more than he does at me, and that's realy upsetting to me because I'm very attached to my son, his crib is in my bedroom, and when I get back from work I rush to carry him and spend the rest of the day with him, I don't know what else to do, I 'm affraid that it may affect my relationship with my mother, do you think that my son thinks that his grand mother is his mommy? is he going to grow out of it? is there anything else that I can do to let him realize that I'm his mommy? please help me?
2007-09-05 13:30:54 · 4 answers · asked by Shaima 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Trust me the baby will understand the difference. As long as you spend as much time with him and love and care for him, you will be just fine. It's Grandma's job to spoil the baby. Try and appreciate the fact that she is good to the baby. Maybe when you get home the baby is a little more tired than when your mother has him. I don't think that it's as big of a problem as you think it is, however, I can understand your frustration, but trust me it will be OK. You'll see. Turn your, jealousy into admiration and it won't seem so bad. It may be hard at first, but you will eventually realize what I mean.
2007-09-05 13:51:11 · answer #1 · answered by Christine H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey,
I wouldn't worry too much about that. Your son knows that you are Mommy! However if you are worried you could perhaps see if you can drop a few hours at work. Work more night shifts than day shifts so your home when your son is awake so you have more time with him.
2007-09-05 20:54:40 · answer #2 · answered by bitsy_pixie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, at this age a baby becomes attached to the person who is there the most. The person who provides the most nurturing when he is cranky, the one who sings and rocks him to sleep the one who gives it the bottle and changes his diaper. Security and consistency are what a baby craves most and depends on to grow. So at this age he will naturally gravitate to the person who can provide that. Your mom is the one who is always there so he sees her as the most reliable. As time goes on ,and he increases in his independence, he will realize that you are in fact his mom and he will begin to associate "fun' as well as nurturing behavior more with you. Just keep telling him,"mommie loves you" and being both firm and consistant. He will love you for the cuddling and play that you will provide and see his Grandma as in important but less involved person in his life.
2007-09-05 21:01:47 · answer #3 · answered by Mama Mia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He knows that he is your mommy.
I may be wrong, but it sounds like you are jealous of your mom being able to spend all that time with him uninterupted.
Talk to your mom. See if she notices it or thinks that it is just an emotion that you are feeling. She is an adult and will know from being a new mom herself (with you) , you know that she will not want to jepodize your relationship with your son or you.
2007-09-05 20:40:14 · answer #4 · answered by Helga 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋