Why do some people keep insisting that being gay is a choice?

Question

How can anyone choose whom to be sexually attracted to?
I mean, do these people that insist on saying it is a choice wake up every morning saying"well I think today I will choose to be heterosexual", what kind of idiocy is that?
And for those that say that being gay is not a choice but acting upon is,and they should not do it, why should they be deprived of LOVE, because a religion said so?That is complete BS!.

K716 what adultery has gotten to do with homosexuality?
Your argument makes no sense!!!!

Answer 1

I agree with you - it's not really a CHOICE in regards to who you're attracted to.

I think most of us have forgotten how hard it was and how much we were teased as children (if you're heterosexual, that is) when we first started to "like" people of the opposite gender. (Remember little kids teasing you when they discovered, "You like boys!" or "You like girls!" ... eeeeeeuw!!)

Now imagine that same level of intolerance ... only add the stubborness, bigotry, and hatred that an adult can generate and you'll have SOME idea about what the average homosexual feels like on a regular basis every single day.

... and people think that homosexuals would CHOOSE to live that way??

I've known a few homosexuals who are "in the closet" still because of their religious beliefs or their fear of being ostricized by their families and friends. And if they could CHOOSE to NOT be homosexual they would. So, it's clearly NOT a **choice** for them.



The bible also says that we should enslave people and kill those who violate the sabbath ... The church has also killed people for saying that the earth WASN'T the center of the universe... the church also said that having sex in any other position besides missionary was wrong... and that sex for ANY reason other than procreation was wrong... yet we've learned over our evolution as a "civilized" race that it was those teachings and the church which were wrong.

Hopefully, this is just going to be another one of those things which we (as a society) will eventually "get over" and stop making such a big deal out of.

Aside from the people who are actually having sex ... I don't see why it's anyone else's business anyway!

Answer 2

Most Christians who believe that it is a choice base this belief on Bible verses that are generally poorly interpreted and taken out of context. For example Sodom and Gomorra, actually has nothing to do with homosexuality.

There are also some out there that believe the pseudo science of some preachers who say they have evidence that its a choice. Of course all reputable scientific research disagrees with them.

As for the gentleman giving examples of people's sexual urges being driven by the dollar or the fact he was riding a motorcycle - what you are describing is prostitution and sexual immorality. Just because someone will have sex with you for money (or because you have money) or you have a nice bike, doesn't mean that they were actually attracted to you - they were only interested in the material reward at the end. The difference with homosexual orientation is that the person isn't doing it for a material reward. They are genuinely physically and emotionally attracted to people of the same gender.

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For the person comparing homosexual orientation to pedophelia. The difference my friend is that the psychiatric profession has identified pedophelia as the result of psychological/psychiatric problems, which is something that they have dismissed as the cause of a persons orientation.

EDIT 2

Hi K716

The two examples that you have given show us people who have made commitments to another human being before God, who then choose to break that commitment by committing adultery. If a homosexual man cheated on his partner he has committed the same sin. However how can it be a sin for him to have made a lifelong commitment to someone before God in the same way that the heterosexual couple did? This person doesn't choose there orientation, so what is your solution? Should they lie there whole lives and get married to somone of the opposite sex, even though they are not - and cannot be in love with them? Is that the sort of environment children should be raised in? Or would you prefer that they deny themselves, and live long lonely lives of chastity, even though they feel in their hearts that they are meant to be married - should someone have to live a miserable lonely life because they were born with an orientation that they did not choose?

Answer 3

because it IS a choice, the fact that ANY exgays exist at all is proof that people can and do change and choose their sexuality. whining about how much pain your choices have caused you doesn't invalidate the fact that you chose .Most people say its not a choice because they do not remember making a choice, but in light of all the contrary evidence to these statements , for those who believe it to be a choice the evidence points toward there not being a biological cause.Therefore, regardless of the scientifically useless anecdotal "information"(like the people who say " its not a choice because I said so," or" I remember liking boys when I was three....") the validity of the choice theory is still as valid as the non-choice theories that have not yet rendered up scientific " fruit" I, for one, represent the exgay point of view. I was " recruited " by a gay man at the age of 11 and broke away from the gay community and its habits at the age of 25, I am a person who has made the choice to not be gay.I am happily married and because of my own personal experiences side with the choice side of the spectrum

Answer 4

Some doctors somewhere did a brain scan on a straight man, a straight woman and a gay man. The scans showed that the gay mans brain resembled the staight womand than the straight mans. So you really are born that way.

Answer 5

being gay a choice??? well for those who said so i would have liked to have that chance of choosing when i was a teenager and i was absolutely terrified because i realized i felt attracted to boys and not to girls...my childhood and teenager years were quite difficult as regards accepting myself.
As for gay lifestyle being a choice well as someone said i could have chosen to lock myself at home and never meet any men and never have any sexual relationship but what is the point of repression?? just to make someone miserable?? just to waste a life??? if a god tells someone to do so then i dont think that god is worth anyone´s time

Answer 6

I Would Guess Around 3% are born gay--the rest have emotional problems-and well do anything to be part of someones life-

Answer 7

The guy above me, how can you compare pedophiles with gay couples?
Pedophiles are mentally ill, are you saying ,with your argument, that gay people are mentally ill?
How stupid, you do not choose to be gay, just like you do not choose to be hetero.
I wish people would just get out of ignorance!

Answer 8

I think that some people are born gay and others are just perverts and would hump a dog. So, for some its a choice and for others, they have some biological phenomenon they are having to live with.

For the ones that they choose to be gay, they are probably the most at risk for disease.

I am sure there are a lot of guys that fantasize about gay sex as well. Perverts I tell you!

Answer 9

So according to your logic if a married woman is attracted to another man, it's perfectly fine for her to sleep with him since she "shouldn't be deprived of his love". Or if a man who used to sleep around a lot before he got married, can't stay committed, it's ok for him to continue sleeping with whoever he is sexually attracted to, since he can't choose who he is attracted to?

Your theory sounds more like the sex guidelines for bunny rabbits. Most human beings have better morals, self-control, wisdom, and can take responsibility for their actions.

Answer 10

ehh, i could say the same for people thinking me being an atheist is a choice.