Even after they broke up they had feelings for each other for a long time. But now they dont at all. She is about to be engaged and him and I have a great connection. My mom is hating this though and tells me its wrong that we would even think about dating. This has become a big problem because I dont want to let him go, but my mom is going to make my life extremely hard if I dont. Do you guys think its wrong?
2007-09-05 12:45:12 · 18 answers · asked by runningbarefoot 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It would be very awkward at family gatherings that's for sure...
2007-09-05 12:49:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your mom thinks he is a jerk then she may never like him. If it is only because he dated your sis then I don't see her problem. Sitting down with her and talking about it might be good for all of you.
Does your sister know and how does she feel? If she is okay with it then it should be okay with mom too.
And how about the time? Have you been seeing him long and if not, does this feel like a monogamous relationship or just a sometimes date? You may want to go slow until you figure out what really did not work between him and his past girlfriends.
Good luck.
2007-09-05 19:53:16 · answer #2 · answered by San Diego Art Nut 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless the guy in question is a dirtbag or someone of questionable character that would concern any mother, then no it is not wrong of you to date you sister's former boyfriend. I am sure after six years that any feelings your sister might have had for the guy had long since passed.
I can understand that your mom also might be concerned that both of her girls are going to be hurt by the same man, but if you are over 18, then you are free to date whoever you choose.
2007-09-05 19:50:31 · answer #3 · answered by davester1970 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is very very wrong with all the guys out there you had to go after your sisters old boyfriend. You do know when your sister is around you will be thinking about the two of them having sex,it's to much to handle for you and most important your sister. If you want a life of jealously and accusations then go for it but in all honesty you are biting off more then you can chew. Another thing how do you know he isn't using you to get close to your sister you don't and never will. You are asking for trouble if you do this.
2007-09-05 20:00:16 · answer #4 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, looking from the outside I'd say "if none of them have feelings for each other anymore, go for it"....... but if I was the aggravated sister, I wouldn't be so happy about it. It sounds like they had an important story and that cannot be erased even if they've moved on with their lives. So yes..... I guess it's not the right decision for you to date this guy. You should do what your good sense tells you, and I'm sure you don't want to hurt your sister just like you wouldn't like her to hurt you..... so you will find the answer yourself. There's no right or wrong here....... but put yourself in her shoes and think if you would like her to do something similar to you... and act from there.
2007-09-05 19:51:14 · answer #5 · answered by Lprod 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see the problem as long as you have talked to your sister and you are 110% positive that she is Ok with it. If she is, have her tell your mother that so that mom can adjust to the situation. If you have any doubt in your mind about your sister's feelings, then I suggest to stay far away. Blood should come first.
2007-09-05 19:57:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Sharing is caring does not apply to relationships. They are so many men out there, why would you pick someone that your sister had history with? Especially if you mom isnt okay with it, she doesnt appreciate it for some reason.
2007-09-05 19:49:38 · answer #7 · answered by PrincessFiona 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
6 years ago? um no that's not wrong, that's life. Obviously your sister and him have moved on... and it's been 6 years, not weeks or days.
If you fancy each other, go for it.
2007-09-05 19:53:15 · answer #8 · answered by Amy V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2007-09-05 19:47:58 · answer #9 · answered by Kylie 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
NO! It's not wrong at all. I mean, they're completely over it everyone's fine with it except your mom right?
It HAS been 6 years... if you like him go for it! moms can be dumb sometimes
2007-09-05 19:48:32 · answer #10 · answered by Arcare 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask your sister does she have a problem with it, I think that is all that matters, if she doesnt have aproblem with it then i dont see a problem with it but if it is werid for her at all you should drop it
2007-09-05 19:49:27 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋