Should I say something?

Question

My boyfriend was @ my house last night, parents were gone, and we were laying in bed...making out etc...and he started to go farther and farther south. We've made out, touched, whatever but not farther than that. And when I started to act nervous he said, "you have to trust me." I've told him I'm not having sex til I'm married and he said he respects that...but he went all the way down on me...I just felt, violated afterwards...I dont know if guys just can't stop once they've started? We love each other and i do trust him...and i did last night...but now i get shivers whenever i think about it. I do see myself marrying him in the future but just bc i see that doesn't mean i shouldn't keep my values that i started with,

I guess...what i'm asking is, does he now expect me to do the same to him? BC i can't, not yet. And how do I bring this up? what should I Say?

Answer 1

so you're saying he gave you oral?if you don't want it, you have to tell him. i have to say though, you never should have let it go that far if it concerned you.i also have to ask, what is it that made you feel violated? did you feel ashamed? you shouldn't feel that way but i can understand it if you're planning on waiting til marriage. he may expect you to do the same but if you aren't ready, then say so. also tell him that he can't do what he did anymore if it bothers you.