Please help ,Pancreatic Cancer?

Question

I just found out that my mother has Pancreatic Cancer/Tumor,and it already started to spead to her liver.she has to start chemo. what can i do to help fight this or live longer.please help me

Answer 1

Hey... My grandmother had Pancreatic cancer, got Chemo therapy, and then, was operated by leading surgeons. She got the best treatment anyone could ask for and only lived 6 months. I am so sorry, and I truely feel terrible for you because your mother most likely doesn't have too long. What you should do Is prepare for the day when both of you have to let go. I know it will be very hard because she's your mother. I miss my grandmother so much. We had a very special relationship - I'd fly over alone almost every vacation I had just to see her (and she wasn't sick). This is terrible, but you will make it through. Pancreatic cancer is an atrocious thing and has basically no survival rate. A month before my grandmother died, scans were conducted and revealed that the cancer had spread even to her stomach. She could never eat again, so she was put on an IV. I really feel your pain, believe me. To hear that someone's loved one has pancreatic cancer sickens me. Talk to your mother. Tell her that you love her, and make sure she knows it. Apologize for anything that you did to her, so that you have no regrets and know that she loves and will always love you. Take pictures and videos. Record her voice saying phrases that make you laugh. She may not live, but you can keep small reminders of her digitally. Make your mom happy and cherish EVERY minute you spend with her. Be hopeful, but at the same time be realistic. It will be rough but you'll make it though. Again, I am so sorry. No one ever deserves to go through this. Living longer would involve chemo and a very risky operation. Cancer sucks. Prepare yourself - It's gonna be a rough ride. Know that even a total stranger (me) feels your pain and wishes you the best. Because i really, really do.

Answer 2

My father in law found out he had pancreatic cancer this summer they took part of his pancrea, his spleen and part of his stomach in July. He was doing chemo and seemed to be doing well until yesterday when the doctor informed him the cancer matastised to his lungs and liver and give him up to 18 months to live, I'm sorry cancer is such an awful awful disease for anyone to have to fight,
What you can do is be there for her and spend as much time with her as possible the prognosis with pancreatic cancer is not good only 20% live past a year

Answer 3

Both my dad and my brother died of this disease.
She may need help with many things around the home.
I would talk to the doctor about supplemental nourishment
if she doesn't feel like eatting. I would also see if she
can have medication for nausea and maybe even
constipation and, of course, pain. Because she may be on pain medication, it may be more difficult for her to move her bowels. She will need someone there with her as much as
possible...you may want to look into getting her hospice
care. I don't know how old your mom is...the
Area of the Aging, in your area, is one of the best places to get in touch with...they help those who are elderly, but many
times will help those who are terminal or disabled.
I definitely would see if you could get an advanced
directive or a power of attorney form made up, so that
you are able to handle her affairs and talk directly
with her doctors. These privacy laws now can cause
someone, who cares for someone, alot of hassle.
There are advanced directive forms free on line.
They will usually consider a patient for transplant if
it hasn't spread to other organs, the fact that you said
it has spread doesn't give much hope. It would be
best if you and her were able to discuss what she
would like to have done "if" something should happen.
You can get hats or wigs for very reasonable amounts...
usually the cancer doctors has booklets with this or
you can order them on line.

I really wish I could be more uplifting about this. I hope
her cancer goes into remission. I know how hard this
must be on you. I am going to give you the advice
they gave me...you have to take care of yourself and
make sure you get the rest you need and support you
can have. You have to take care of you, so you will
be well enough to take care of her and not become
burnt out.

Your love for her and your support and being there
for her in everyway will be what she needs the most right
now. Some people get so emotional over this and
say they cannot handle it and walk out and leave the
patient alone....you have to swallow how you feel and
just be there no matter what. There may be times that
she will get angry or confused. If she lashes out at you,
don't take it personal. She is having to deal with an
awful lot of emotions and things she never thought
she would. She may not want to talk about them,
so she may snap or say something to try to drive you
away...this is normal. I'm sorry to hear that you have to go through this.....

Answer 4

Life expectancy is 85, so he has already exceeded that. The oldest living man is only 114, so with perfect health he might manage another 20 ears. However he has far from perfect health. When my cousin who was in the prime of his life was diagnosed with liver cancer at the age of 20, he survived less than a year His liver cancer is already stage 4 if it has spread to the pancreas, there is little treatment other than to make his remaining time comfortable.

Answer 5

What stage?

My sister was diagnosed 7/20. She had the Whipple Surgery and started Chemo yesterday, then Radiation.

My sister has stage 3 and they told me 20 months.

Please enjoy every minute with you, and as previously stated, take care of yourself.... I am exhausted. I search all day at work "pancreatic cancer"

My words of wisdom are enjoy every minute with her...we do not know what is in store for us as care givers.

You are in my prayers.

Answer 6

She will need a lot of help with the house once the chemo starts. There will a lot of bad days after it.

Be there do what she needs and asks and show her how much you love her.

Answer 7

Hopefully, medicine has come a long way. My husband's mother died of Pacreatic Cancer in 6 months. She thought she had the flu...very sad.. I hope she beats this, and lives a long time.

Answer 8

Well u gotta make her forget about it ! let her fight it but just don't think about it ! personality helps alot ! my grandfather had Stage 2 or 3 Prostate Cancer back in 2001 .. nobody told he had it the only thing he knew is that he was sick .. the doc. told him MAXIMUM 6 MONTHS ! he died last week ! being optimistic really really helps ;) let her join support groups let her have fun that'll help her live longer or even be cured !

Answer 9

You need to talk to the doctor about her prognosis and what else you can do to help. It is a very bad diagnosis and you will need to give her all the support you can. I am so sorry. God bless.