my childrens father has always smoked pot outside of the house(which was fine with me) but we live in separate households now and he's not very considerate about it now. i've noticed when i drop the kids of there are joints and etc. laying about and he has taken to letting the kids run around and play while he goes next door and smokes because they are occupied i guess. i've told him to do it on his own time rather than when the kids come to visit and he just tells me he's not doing anything wrong. i don't want our kids in that envioronment and he doesn't get it. i feel like i shouldn't even take the kids over there anymore. i know i'm not crazy but he makes me feel like a bad parent with his actions.
2007-09-05 11:24:20 · 7 answers · asked by cool_spicy_springroll 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If I were you, I would stop taking the kids over there until he got his act together. How can he be responsible enough to watch out for the kids when he is smoking pot and getting high ? Do not let him make you feel bad for wanting what is best for your children. They are your number 1 priority, not his ego.
2007-09-05 11:32:11 · answer #1 · answered by Mom_of_3 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your job is to protect your children, not to worry about what your ex is feeling or saying. Do not take your children there again and get full custody of them immediately, until he can demonstrate that he has been clean for a year. If you don't, your children will grow up to be lazy, shiftless stoners like your ex, because that is what they have learned. You will then be responsible for allowing that to happen. Don't do it. Stand up for your kids and do the right thing.
2007-09-05 18:42:42 · answer #2 · answered by meatpiemum 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All I know is that pot is illigal and if caught with it while he has the children wouldn't be good, and you will feel even worse. I would seek some legal advise and only have supervised visitations.
2007-09-05 19:40:22 · answer #3 · answered by SuzyBell 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hell no ur 100% right am 16 I don't have kids and I don't know whats its like. I agree with u am not going to want my kids around that either.
2007-09-05 18:35:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's convinced you he's doing anything wrong? Take pics of his apartment with you phone camera, cut off his visitation and when he complains, tell him you're going to the police if he don't knock it off.
He's breaking the law by being high, he's contributing to the delinquency of minors by giving them access to drugs, and neglecting them by being next door where he can't supervise them.
2007-09-05 18:40:33 · answer #5 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't take your kids over there anymore. Period. Drugs will influence you kids. Your not the bad parent. He is. Take action and protect your kids from illegal activity.
2007-09-05 18:35:51 · answer #6 · answered by Becky 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. The guy is being a jerk. How come you married a guy with a drug problem in the first place?
Kent in SD
2007-09-05 18:35:57 · answer #7 · answered by duckgrabber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋