For Christians!?

Question

This is not a typical question, compared to my other ones, however, I have to know the answers to these questions: Should a Christian date someone who claims to be a Christian, but does not go to church, does not drink, smoke or the like, but does cuz and not read the Bible or pray. Two, how could a man romance a lady in todays world without a dinner and movie,(so worn out), and how do u know when God has sent u the right help-mate? Pls be honest and polite, this is a serious question, I am seeking guidence on it. Thank You

Ok some ppl seem to be getting mixed up, I am a guy who is dating a non-christian female, who I hardly get to see, even doh she lives only 20 minutes from me, and the dinner and a movie thing she thinks is worn out, ppl do it to much she wants something different.

Answer 1

We went over this, but thought I'd gain 2 points anyway. Hope it helped! God Bless

Hey, on the romancing tip, how about a Christian concert, there always fun!!

Answer 2

My girlfriend is a Christian, attends a Christian college, and goes to church every Sunday. I, an agnostic, don't go to church, I drink, smoke and "cuz?" Do you mean curse? I do that really well. I don't pray, but I do meditate, and I have studied The Bible. So, I don't think there's any problem with a Christian dating someone who isn't also a Christian. On the other hand, I don't think people should lie about what they believe to a potential partner, and one should be honest with him/herself about what they actually believe.

As far as romancing a lady without dinner and a movie because you're so worn out? Here's the cold, hard truth: no girl wants to date a guy who always wants to sit at home and play Xbox. If you're so tired, drink a redbull, or don't work so many hours.

And, for the love of the baby Jesus, don't, DON'T call her your "help-mate."

Answer 3

Not all Christians act the same way. Some don't believe in organized religion. No one is perfect so don't worry about the cussing. Just let him know that it makes you uncomfortable. If he's the right man for you, he'll try to cut it out. How do you know he doesn't pray? You don't have to kneel, close your eyes, fold your hands etc. to pray. I pray a lot when I am driving or doing my work. Dinner is always nice but he could take you to do something you enjoy. Maybe going to museums, home shows, ballet, plays etc. Going for a walk along a river or in a beautiful park. GOD doesn't make mistakes so if you think HE sent this man to you, accept it. I'm glad that you're asking sooner rather than later, especially if these questions are nagging at you. Good Luck

Answer 4

First, if you can find a mate who doesn't smoke/drink etc., show him to me. Actually, nevermind - don't.

Dude, I don't go to church, but I still pray every day and see God in the things around me. Yeah, I'm probably going to have to answer for it someday, but then again, maybe God thinks the Catholic mass is boring too. Who knows?

Second - you can't romance a lady without dinner and a movie, unless you want to date cheap trash. For the love of Jesus, DO NOT ask a girl if she wants to "come over and hang" for your first date. If you like her and she's worth it, take her out and feed her first.

Finally - I have no idea how to tell when God has sent you the right help-mate. I think it's just something you feel internally. You'll just know it's right. Don't overanalyze it.

Answer 5

Find the woman you absolutely know you have to be with for the rest of your life. Then talk, and talk, and talk. There's a lot to talk about before you marry.

You may find a church you can both go to happily, even if she won't go to the particular church you go to. Don't ever believe ministers who tell you certain people aren't "real" Christians -- some of those people think the same about you, and they're wrong, aren't they? So why couldn't you be wrong about them?

Going to church with your spouse is a very great joy, but it's not a joy everyone gets to have.

If you're thinking God will send you the person who's perfect for you, you're probably going to be disappointed. No one's perfect for anyone else. You marry, and then you make the marriage and the family, and you make it as well as you can. Some years -- some decades! -- will be better than others.

It will end badly. All love stories end badly. The good ones end in death and sorrow.

It really IS worth it!

Answer 6

Sure, date them. You don't have to go to church to be a christian. And if they do pray like Jesus taught, you'd never see it...they would do it in private, not out to show off for everyone.

Romance with fun...take her putt-putt golfing, or go to a fun center, a fair (this is the time of year for those), go on a boat ride, or hot air balooning (maybe not so popular since the accident a week ago or so). There's lots to do without a dinner and movie. Pack a picknic and go hiking...have some fun.

You'll know if it's a helpmate if they actually help you. If you spend most of your time trying to help them, or most of your time focused on their problems...that's not a helpmate situation, and it's a precedent that's hard to break as time goes on. It's an equal match of caring and sharing each other's lives. It has a special feeling to it...

Good luck.

Answer 7

1. I don't see a difference between the person you described and many non-christians who also don't smoke, do cuss and don't read his bible or pray... It's easier saying you're a christian than actually being one.

2. In parks, by bodies of water, by taking dance classes together, at picnics, day trips.... there are countless ways.

3. He tells us each in different ways. I'm not so sure there's there's "a" person for everyone (maybe some), in my case there were definitely various women that God and I would have been happy with.

Answer 8

You want honesty? If you believe in God, stop waiting for him to send you someone... Gods, if the exist, are surely doing something far more important than to meddle with our every day life.

Who you choose to be with is no concern of your deity, so why should he send you one? Love forms from either first sight (i know first hand of that) or from when the personalities of 2 people join.

As for the first part of your question... Yes, don't be ridiculous... Religion holds no place in a relationship, it leads to arguments if you are separate faiths or it leads to arguments if not as you will eventually read into or take something wrong and so on.

Just follow your heart. If your god IS with you, i am pretty sure thats where he is.

Answer 9

Do you want to marry someone who does not go to Church, even if that person has other good features? What will the children think when their home is divided?

Go to the Zoo or a Park and talk, talk and talk. Just make it a public place to reduce temptations to move the relationship "to the next level" before becoming friends.

Answer 10

First and foremost, don't rush into anything!
Take time to get to know her, and don't be afraid to let her get to know you. As for knowing if she the "right one", wait until you have seen how she acts in both the valleys and the mountain tops. You know what I mean right? See, how she acts when things are great, or when things suck.
As for the dating thing; go places where talking to each other is encouraged. Better yet, let her decide what to do once n a while! God bless!