My girlfriend and I broke up because she thought I cheated on her and I did not. Now she realizes that I didn't and has told me that she wants to work things out when she is ready. That was 2 and a half months ago. We dated for 5 months and I for one fell madly in love with her so I want to wait for her. I haven't brought the subject up in a while but the last time I did she said that pressuring her will push her away. I am tired of going to bed at night wondering when or if we will get back together. I love her so much. I am now at a 4 year university with thousands of women and I only see her. She said that she has to get the stress out of her life first. Am I wrong in thinking that if she really wanted me than she wouldn't take the risk of me finding someone else at this college. I love her more than life but at the same time the waiting is killing me. Can the women out there tell me how long she might take to be ready for a relationship again?
2007-09-05 10:19:35 · 22 answers · asked by Dart1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sadly, she will not be ready until she dates a bunch of dirt bags and realizes you are a gem. Girls like that ruin the good guys for other women. If you choose to wait around, remember it is YOUR choice to wait, don't get bitter like a lot of other guys. I say start dating, you never know what you could be missing while waiting for a girl that MAY not even come back around.
2007-09-05 10:25:30 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah Smile 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
End it. If she is not ready now, then how is she going to be ready in the future? Relationships are all about making adjustments for each other so that you can each be a part of the other persons life. She is NOT making an adjustment for you, and she is demanding that you wait and make an adjustment for her.
It is time to end it when a relationship becomes this one sided. If for some reason she was right and you did cheat on her then she may have a point and it may be worth your time to wait, but instead she wrongly accused you and now she expects you to wait on her.
I know the feeling you are experiencing and I made the mistake of putting in the effort for the relationship and she continued to take from me. In the end I left her once I realized she had made almost no sacrifices for the relationship what so ever.
2007-09-05 17:27:49 · answer #2 · answered by arimarismacon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you exactly when she's going to be ready for a relationship!!!! As soon as she thinks you've moved on......she's playing games and wants to see how much you love her and how long you're willing to wait...as soon as she thinks you've found someone else, she'll want you back! The question is are you willing to let her play games with your head. If you truly love her then don't go out looking for someone, but I'd certainly not set in my room and pine over someone who isn't willing to let you know they can't live without you. Go out and at least make some friends....what is meant to be will be, but you should enjoy the opportunities you've been given in the mean time. Send her a friendly letter or email just to "say hi" and tell her college is great and you've met a lot of great friends. Don't mention your feelings...that way you've made contact and put the ball in her court. If you don't hear back from her....then it's time to move on!!! Best of luck to you!!!
2007-09-05 17:28:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You totally don't deserve to be treated like this if she found out you really didn't cheat. It's not like you did anything to hurt her so what is there to get over and be ready for a relationship. She's the one with the issues it sounds like. It is unreasonable of her to expect you to sit around and wait for her to want you!!!!! You are not wrong in your thinking at all. If you do love her, I won't tell you to move on b/c that's not easy to do, BUT go on a date! I'm serious, go on one date and make sure to drop that info to her somehow. Ask her what she's doing on the weekend and then volunteer that you are going out. Let her wonder with whom and where and she will ask, tell her a girl. Don't give any specifics, be aloof about it. See how quick she comes running if she thinks you've put yourself back on the market. Girls like to be pined after and that's what you are doing. You are there when she's ready and that is not fair to you! If she loves you and wants to be with you, when she hears you went on a date she'll be ready to get back with you. If not, she doesn't care for you like you wish she did and you will need to start trying to move on.
2007-09-05 17:26:44 · answer #4 · answered by mamak2327 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not sure if she was playing hard to get the second time around. If she's into you that much, she wouldn't have waited this long. I am afraid you're working too hard to get her back because you're in love with her. This thing takes 2 and if she feels the same, things shouldn't be so difficult.
Ask her openly if she ever loved you at all. For if I was the woman, I'd never hesitate to be with my man if I loved him.
2007-09-05 17:27:50 · answer #5 · answered by Suppie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you start fresh at your new college and gain new freinds ,both male and female , if you happen to meet someone new so be it ,have fun you are young and many will come and go , I do not think that she feels the same way about you. I hope you meet a gorgeous woman and then perhaps double date with your x and flaunt the new and what she is missing.
2007-09-05 17:27:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I',m not a woman, but I think this girl has given you the cold shoulder; the dear john message. If she wanted to just take time to work it out, she would keep you posted.
No, I think it's time for you to strike that one off, for now. Get on With your life; this time of your life will not come around, again. Enjoy it!
2007-09-05 17:26:43 · answer #7 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The song when the movie Forget Paris goes off says:
When you love someone then love them with your heart and it doesn't disappear when you're apart. When you love someone and you've done all you can do,then set them free and if that love is true,if you love someone it will come back to you. Meaning if it's meant to be it will.
2007-09-05 17:32:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really want to wait for her or date somebody else,,the decision is up to you. But while waiting, do not get you hopes up that much because in the end you're going to get hurt. And after waiting, if she decided not to get back together with you, then it is her loss.
2007-09-05 17:25:34 · answer #9 · answered by marcurrie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOVE ON!
she's obviously not that serious about the relationship if she said that she wanted to fix it 2 months ago and then never DID!
2007-09-05 17:26:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋