Going through a stressful time at the moment, with my Husband thinking or resigning and working for himself. We are also selling a house and may have to move out of the house we live in. We also have to travel a fair bit.
I'm just worrying about all the things that could go wrong. Would it be better to just forget about it and bury my head in the sand? Just let my husband deal with it all?
2007-09-05 10:10:41 · 16 answers · asked by Laenaeish 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
You're not wrong to worry, but try to balance those worried thoughts by thinking of all the things that could go RIGHT. Try to be supportive your husband, as he is likely having some of the same thoughts and right now you both need a positive attitude towards the future.
2007-09-05 10:30:22 · answer #1 · answered by Irrepairable 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be much better if you both sat at the kitchen table and wrote all the negatives and positives down and then weighed them. Communication is imperative when the lively hood of the family depends on the decision.
Since you seem to be the one who sees the negative side of the situation, you could prepare a listing of all the things you think about and then have him make his points in the positive. This can all be accomplished in a quiet and subdued atmosphere. No need to quibble or get into an upset situation. He has to be made aware of your concerns and he must off-set it with the positives. If he is convinced that it will work, then you must concede the gamble and go along with it. If the negatives over-ride his positives, he must make that acknowledgement and act accordingly.
2007-09-12 21:19:55 · answer #2 · answered by mrcricket1932 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are these things that you can effectively change? If not, then why be like someone like me?
I have severe high blood pressure and it is ruining my heart because I worry and stress about everything. You are only able to change those things that you can directly control. If you are unhappy with what is going on then, you need to find ways to attempt to resolve the issues in an effective manner.
If your husband is doing something you don't agree with, tell him. If you cannot live with the decision by him to continue anyway then, you have a choice to make. Stay and live with his decision or move on and take total control of your life and financial situation.
2007-09-13 12:55:03 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should bury your head in the sand. It sounds like you have a lot going on in your life now, and several areas of uncertainity. This happens at times in many people's lives. You should continue to discuss it with your husband and let the communication lines remain open. Talk to him about what you are feeling and don't let it be bottled up inside of you. Don't let yourself get overwhelmed. This too shall pass!
2007-09-13 11:34:38 · answer #4 · answered by makeloans2 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm the eternal optimist, the glass is always half full not half empty, look on it as a challenge an adventure. It could be the best thing you have ever done but you'll never know if you don't try. Life's too short, you don't want to look back and say what if. Good luck.
2007-09-05 17:48:48 · answer #5 · answered by Bezza 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he better able to cope? Would you accept his decisions and not come to resent him in the future? Would he resent you for not sharing the responsibility?
Don't worry about what might happen. Deal with what is happening now, one decision at a time. You can't control what might happen at some future time, you can only control what you are doing at this point in time.
Maybe he is having the same fears as you. Go up to him, tell him not to talk but just to hug you for a minute. Tell him you need to absorb some of his strength. Tell him you just need a cuddle.
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2007-09-06 10:28:42 · answer #6 · answered by Schittzu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think he's making a mistake, then tell him you want, say, $100,000 in savings before he tries to go out on his own. And then let him.
Just let him do what he wants? How much confidence do you have in his business acumen? How well does he perform the duties of a plumber (or whatever he does). If you trust him that he can do it, just sit back and watch, offering support.
Debbie
TX Mom
2007-09-13 15:46:53 · answer #7 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you surely are also responsible for the debts, and I would be a little aprehensive myself...but I wouldn't bury my head, I would be right on top of things to make sure that they go as planned, it takes two to make the deal go right...be a part of it, and work with him...be a part of the success...maybe he would like you to help! good luck
2007-09-12 19:19:43 · answer #8 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's an adventure, a challenge, something new to deal with. Any problems you have are there for you to work out, calmly and rationally, and each solution you find, or problem you overcome will make you feel good and make you a stronger person. Good luck and DON'T WORRY!!!!! x
2007-09-13 14:50:27 · answer #9 · answered by sandtwixtoes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, to be prepared for emergencies is sensible. Write a list of everything you are worried about, discuss each one with your husband, then forget about it knowing you are prepared.
2007-09-09 14:41:12 · answer #10 · answered by tinkerbell34 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋