my fiance and i used to have sex pretty much every day. if not then just about every other, now he's got a new job. . he works 12-8pm..I might be crazy, but i always want sex, but when he gets home he always complains he's too tired. No matter what time it is. . but then he'll stay up till between 11 and 1 at night. how can i get him to wanna do it with me and not using "im tired" as an excuse.
2007-09-05 10:10:03 · 53 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
start an argument and tell him you wither think hes gay or hes cheating on you...then if ask where this came from...just say its cuz he wont have sex with you...then maybe hell want to prove you wrong...
2007-09-05 10:18:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, he doesn't get off until 8:00pm, so yeah it's going to be up until 11 or 12, at least. Maybe he is tired. Not being rude, but it isn't all about you, ya know?
As a girl though... Haven't you ever had someone you've dated wanting to constantly have sex? It's like the more they asked the less you wanted it?
Give him a chance to come to you. A few days or a week.
If that doesn't work, then wake him "up" and I'm sure you'll get a response.
2007-09-05 10:17:35 · answer #2 · answered by nite_angelica 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My man is a firefighter and works 12 hour days as well.....we've found a great way to work around this problem. After your fiance gets home and takes a shower, put on something sexy and while he lays down, give him a full body massage and pamper him a bit....he may in deed be tired, but if you keep this up, he'll give in before you know it!! If he continues to say he's tired...then tell him that you'll do all the work and just take charge!!! I don't think he'll make you get off!
2007-09-05 10:20:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend tells me that but is so I will start the action. I love having sex and when he is in school and working it is tiring so I mean I dont try everyday if he tells me I am tired but instead like every 3 days. Or on Friday and Saturday which were rested we will do it in the morning at night and even in the middle of the night lol! And were set to go for another week.
2007-09-05 10:16:50 · answer #4 · answered by Mari 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a very high libido but if I'm over tired and stressed or my lover is not putting any effort in then I just wont bother with it...
You mention he has started a new job, so is probably under pressure but will come right if you give him the opportunity
Try something different or some gentle seduction on him and if that doesn't work out then you need to sit down and chat in a non confrontational way
Good luck
2007-09-05 10:24:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh do I understand this problem. Have you had the "don't harass me," or "why is always about sex" comments! Don't know the answer, it is so frustrating.
I think some men have a lover sex drive but my girlfriends find it funny! I find it heart breaking. It is about self esteem and rejection too. I even explained I wasn't planning to have an affair or looking for one, but now I do understand why some people resort to it!
Hope you have a good out come.
We were morning flowers till the kids broke that up!!!! Try morning relations!
2007-09-05 10:19:40 · answer #6 · answered by Rach 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop asking him for sex. Give him the chance to be the aggressor. When he does initiate sex ask if he wants to try something new. Ever role play or wear a wig?
Do you work too? You said he's up til 11 & 1 at night, but is he just chillin' or doing other physical activity? If he's too tired during his work week you may have to settle for weekend sex with him & sex with yourself when he's not up to it. If you don't get weekend sex he's probably getting it (or wanting it) from someone else.
2007-09-05 10:41:34 · answer #7 · answered by jan c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't try to make someone want you,that's the mistake we as women make all the time. It will push him away even more. If he don't and you told him how you feel try asking him about going to counseling because if you get married you'll be divorced that same month or separated which is a waist of time to get married. Maybe he's trying to blow you off cause he found someone else. the only thing you can do is,if it gets to bad let it go. You'll never be happy like that.
2007-09-05 10:23:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him, and tell him that its really starting to bother you. Let him know that you feel like something is wrong with yourself...and maybe he will feel bad and explain what his problem is. I doubt he is tired that much. My husband works an 8-5 job, mows his dads grass every week, and works out every evening. I have NO trouble getting him to have sex.
2007-09-05 10:18:22 · answer #9 · answered by Student Doctor House 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have some mercy on the poor guy working is hard!
HOWEVER, my suggestions is to seduce him;
When he gets home, make sure dinner is on the table and not MickeyD's r or Pizza Hut, something you make. After dinner, let him rest a bit, then give him a massage, a good one. Tell him how wonderful he is for working so hard.......something with pop up! LOL!
2007-09-05 10:18:51 · answer #10 · answered by jersey girl in exile 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with some previous answers. Working out will make you feel good about yourself and will make you build muscle, thus making you look thinner. He won't resist you if one day while coming home you cook him a good meal. Have him take a little nap and wake him up for a good time!
2007-09-05 10:18:27 · answer #11 · answered by Txgirl23 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋