A co-worker just told me what she thought was a "funny" story of her 7 yr old saying that she wanted to start sleeping in between mommy & mommy's new bf. Why? Because she sees new bf having sex with her mommy and she also said she knows they are naked. How does she know? Because she sees them when they get up. She has seen this new bf's penis and commented to her mom that it is big! Am I wrong to think this is a troubled situation?
I personally have never turned anyone in to CPS but I am honestly worried about this little girls well-being.
2007-09-05 09:51:02 · 21 answers · asked by SugarFreeRedBull 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Scary stats:
If you use the traditional family (mom and dad married. parents of all the children) as a base.
A girl who lives in a house where mom & dad are not married is 3 times more likely than the girl in the traditional family to be sexually abused.
A girl who lives with a step-father who is married to her mom is 15 times more likely than the girl in a traditional family to be sexually abused.
A girl who lives with a man who is not married to her mother is 85 times more likely than the girl in the traditional family to be sexually abused.
This little girl needs to be protected from this potentially dangerous situation.
2007-09-05 10:49:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If they are having sex with her in the room, that is wrong. There is however nothing wrong with nudity! Everyone has their own level of comfort. (My daughter sees me naked if she is around when I am getting in/out of the shower. She has seen her father naked while changing or getting into/out of the shower, nudity is not abuse.) Of course if your feelings are that something might be jeopardizing this girls well being, you have the right to make a report. Gut instincts can be right.
2007-09-08 08:41:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is very disturbing. Why is the mother letting this man walk around the house naked when her 7 year old is present. That is a very strange situation, especially with all those child molesters out there. If it were me I would probable report it to CPS.
2007-09-05 11:33:12 · answer #3 · answered by lpn2003 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is a red alert, to me.
I'd go to your HR department, invoke confidentiality, and tell them what you heard.
Do NOT take this on yourself by confronting the co-worker, or even discussing with her in any way. Be aware, too, that your co-worker has stepped over a line here, and you could make a case for harassment against her.
But the right first thing to do would be get to HR and notify them. You should not have to be dealing with this in your work place (I know it sounds cold, but it is true).
Good luck with this
2007-09-05 09:58:13 · answer #4 · answered by Green is my Favorite Color 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do you think people do when all they have is one room for the whole family? How do you think Eskimos manage with igloos? Compared with being beaten to death with boyfriend's belt, merely seeing mom's boyfriend's penis hardly constitutes "abuse." Granted, Mom could use some guidance regarding keeping her sex life private, but I have every confidence her daughter will survive this situation, as generations before her have. MYOB.
2007-09-07 10:14:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok I have a 4 year old daughter and me and her father aren't together, I am getting ready to marry a wonderful man and expecting our second child, BUT my 4 year old has never seen us naked, seen him naked, or slept in between us when we were naked, its ok for the daughter to want to sleep with her mom but I don't think its normal for her to be seeign what she is seeing and commenting on it. How sick is this lady to think it's funny. And second when you have a kid, there shouldn't be to many "boyfriends" around them anyway. I would say something also, its not normal to me.
2007-09-05 09:56:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are absolutely NOT wrong to think this is worrisome. Children should not see their parents engaging in sexual intercourse or sleeping with a partner.
If this mother thinks it's "funny" she's either clueless or abusive. If you are close to her, tell her your concerns, if you trust someone who is close to her, pass it on to her, and if neither scenario is right... you might have to bite the bullet and report if you want to be able to sleep at night.
That's a terrible thing to her about-- kids deserve better.
Good luck.
2007-09-05 10:01:09 · answer #7 · answered by LJG 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say that is NOT a normal situation, and something should be done. That mother needs to practice some decency and tact around her daughter. Also the bf needs to grow up and take appropriate action to cover himself. This is shameful.
2007-09-05 09:55:11 · answer #8 · answered by notarycat 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
YEs, Sexually explicit behavior witnessed by a child is abuse. I would report it. This little girl should not be exposed to that.
The mother should have enough sense to know that is harmful, and the guy should not feel comfortable to allow a child to watch.
2007-09-05 11:14:58 · answer #9 · answered by Mama Mia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No its not abuse but yeah that is something no parent should expose their children to. It can impact their daily lives and even their childhood when they start getting really curious. I don't know why your co-worker think that's funny but Child Services wouldn't find that funny at all
2007-09-05 09:56:01 · answer #10 · answered by Candy 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋