i just wanna know this. why are guys supposed to be the one to initiate EVERYTHING. why cant girls do this too?
2007-09-05 09:42:47 · 49 answers · asked by jbob30 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i am a guy btw. it just seems that there is pressure on the guy to do everything when trying to form a relationship.
2007-09-05 09:52:38 · update #1
Actually, they often do make the first move and it's happening more and more as the old ways are left behind and women realize it's not only okay, but a lot of guys think it's pretty kewl.
2007-09-05 09:45:46 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
For several reasons:
Traditional guys are the ones that approach the girl or girl's family usuall the father or some other male. Don't think girls are not making the 1st move. I know plenty are doing that. They may not be interested or busy to be bother with you. If you are interested in a girl why don't you approach her. The most bad thing can happen are: no, cuss you out, or ignore you. How is someone going to know if you are interested in them if you don't approach them. Are you a shy person. Do you feel confidence in yourself. If not, you can sharpen your skills. By reading communication, dating books,internet. Even asking people. It could be the way you look, the way you carry yourself, etc. If someone not interested in you they shouldn't pretend unless that what you want. You will be wasting your time & getting your feelings hurt.
2007-09-05 09:51:16 · answer #2 · answered by tasha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is an old fashioned notion. Nowadays its not an issue. If a girl really likes a guy there is no reason she can't. be prepared some rejection just a like guy would have with a girl. That is why some guys don't make a move for fear of rejection and are appreciative when a girl does. It's useful to "jump start" things.
2007-09-05 09:51:00 · answer #3 · answered by Bree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls can, but typically they don't have to because guys seem to go after the girls more than vice versa. So girls typically have more guys to choose from than guys have girls to choose from. That means girls can sit and wait, and guys have to get out there to compete for the best one.
Biologically, I think this works to test the pool of available males for the strongest and most powerful. A male that takes what he wants and isn't fearful or intimidated is deemed a better protector or provider. A male that is reticent, shy and overpowered by other males is p@ssy, and less desirable.
Also, in my opinion, women are considered of more value than men. When a woman is with a man she "gives herself" to him. The man, conversely, "takes" the woman. Clearly those terms imply value. Man doesn't give himself to the woman -- he isn't the valuable part of the equation. A woman's sexuality is a thing of value to be protected, while a man's is not (traditionally speaking that is). Therefore, men chase the thing of value, and women don't consider a man's sexuality as such a valuable item, rather they value the protective and support capabilities of the man. Biologically, after impregnation, the males value comes from providing
That's why girls instinctively do not initiate, because that devalues their sexuality. If they are attractive, then men would be after them right? If men come after them, then they ARE attractive. A woman going after a man is saying that she has to convince him to be attracted to her or to want her. Women don't like that.
2007-09-05 09:52:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because us girls have something inside of us that we just can't do it, and also the rules have always been like that, that the guy has to make the first move in everything. But there is nothing wrong with girls doing the first move.
2007-09-05 09:47:11 · answer #5 · answered by LG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For a girl to make the first move the guys usually label them as "easy". We're still animals and we are looking for a mate and the last thing a mating animal wants is a mate that is a wimp. Deep down in the mind of a animal, the female wants to best to survive.
2007-09-05 09:50:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls dont make the first move becaue it's tradition guys do it. Another reason is a lot of guys get an attitude. So when a girl ask them out that they dont think is good enough for them its so funny. Also girls might be afraid of putting them selves out there and getting hurt.
2007-09-05 09:49:22 · answer #7 · answered by Micro spice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well actually some girls are different. Some girls like to have the guy make the first move, maybe they have made a move but you didn't notice cause they do it a different way most people do it, or she just don't like you.
2007-09-05 09:47:53 · answer #8 · answered by *~*Alyssa*~* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From the bible times guys were the first ones to make the first move. I think its kinda like a rule that you were born with or even when we are growing up we are told as females "ladies are to be seen not heard" so i guess thats why we wait for you guys to start it. We don't want to be known a "brazen"
2007-09-05 09:50:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girls do that sometimes, but only to play around, when they want it to be really serious, they let the guy make the first move. It's a smart strategy; guys who are willing to make an effort are probably the best choice, girls feel they are worth it (and they are). And how else can a girl be sure it's her that he wants?
2007-09-05 09:56:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋