Ok...I love my boyfriend to death...but for some reason the only way that I can proove to him that I love him is if I do this one thing that I am not really ready for( get your minds out of the gutter...cause it isn't that) anyways...and now he is mad at me and I don't really know what is going on and I need HELP!! any suggestions??
2007-09-05 09:23:53 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If this is something you aren't comfortable with and your boyfriend can't wait for you to be ready, then screw him. He should care enough about you to respect you. Maybe you 2 just aren't meant to be. You need to be honest, is this something you will never do, or just not yet?
2007-09-05 09:28:40 · answer #1 · answered by mommy2two 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh Lord, I was in the same situation. It never was sex but if you don't do this or that then you don't love me and I hated that. It used to put so much pressure on me. But this is what I did in the end: we sat down and I just told him:"I hate the way you treat me. Everytime you have something on your mind you want me to do and I refuse you tell me that I don't love you. That is not ture and I could say the same thing to you because you are forcing me to do something I feel uncomftorable with and if you would love me you would never want to make me feel that way. So from now on, if I say that I won't do something I mean it and if you don't like it then deal with it. I am my own person and I and only I can make a decision for myself and pleasing your a$$ the whole time is not on one of my lists." He got mad at first, didn't call me for days. I guess he realized what idiot he was and came back to me apoplogizing. What I am trying to tell you is that do not do anything you do not want to whether he thinks you love him or not. You know that you love him and having to keep proving that sucks.
2007-09-05 16:37:57 · answer #2 · answered by Euthalia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't agree with your boyfriend telling you that there's only one way to prove your love - mind in the gutter or not - especially if its something you feel strongly you're not ready for.
Its never right or fair for someone to use the gift of your love to make you do something you're not comfortable with. If you're not feeling ready to take this step, then DO NOT take it - you're not feeling ready for a reason.
Tell your boyfriend no and stick to it. If he's worth your love he wouldn't be putting you in this position.
Good luck!
2007-09-05 16:30:19 · answer #3 · answered by rose1077 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love doesn't require a task, chore or favor as Proof. Devotion is all the proof he'd need if he loved You as well. Dump him if he's demanding anything YOU are not comfortable giving. Get a new boyfriend.
2007-09-05 16:30:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem like a nice person, and if your BF demands proof of your love, he is an idiot and you should think seriously about moving on. He is not mature and is emotionally needy. ANYONE who has to TEST your love, is not the right one for you.
Good Luck
2007-09-05 16:30:10 · answer #5 · answered by gator_ce 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, you should not have to do anything you are not comfortable doing if you really love someone, and they really love you! Would you ask him to do something he is uncomfortable with? Sounds like he has some issues to deal with. Talk it over with him. If he really loves you, he won't ask you to do anything your not comfortable doing, think about it! Best wishes!
2007-09-05 16:29:56 · answer #6 · answered by j c 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
brittc,
If your boyfriend is basing feelings on an act that he is pressuring you to perform, he is a classic manipulator.
I understand that you love him, but this is unhealthy behavior in a relationship.
Look before you leap and don't say you weren't warned.
2007-09-05 16:29:55 · answer #7 · answered by sleepingliv 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, i agree with the answerer with the pink cowboy hat.
Someone who truly loves you would never question your feelings towards him/her. This guy obviously isn't a good type of person if he's questioning your love...
2007-09-05 16:29:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he is mad at you for you doing something you don't want to do he must not really love you as much as you love him. sorry but maybe just talk to him about how you feel.
2007-09-05 16:27:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think before anybody can give you a good answer we would need to know what exactly it is that your boyfriend wants you to do.
2007-09-05 16:32:17 · answer #10 · answered by Lulu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋