And she said she didn't want any money or anything if we did it privately just a happy nice family for the baby. So all I would have to do is get a lawyer to sign the rights of the baby over to me when it is born correct??
Thanks everyone
2007-09-05 09:09:49 · 29 answers · asked by ~*~BaBiGuRl N BaByD TTC#1~*~ 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adoption
Wish it was that simple but do get a lawyer and get things started. There are some things you will have to do to be okayed for even a private adoption. And she can not sign her rights away til 49 to 72 hours after birth and they do change their minds cause it happen to me twice. Also, where is the birth father in this? One of my birth mother signed conditional relinquishment papers that if the birth father tried to fight the adoption, the baby would revert back to her and the relinquishment would be void. Get the lawyer, there is some stuff you need to do. But congrats!!! It takes a least 90 days for an adoption to be final. Thats if everything is done without problems
2007-09-05 10:31:51 · answer #1 · answered by Done 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have no experience with adoption whatsoever. I think the adopted child has the most important rights, as they were a child when everything was decided for them. Everyone else in the situation (unless your mum was very young, where a decision may have been made for her) was an adult and made those choices. You didn't, so therefore I think you now have the right to find out the circumstances of your adoption, if you would like to. I would talk to a professional organisation though, with regards to emotions and the best way to go forward. Good Luck
2016-05-17 12:00:03 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot legally adopt a baby without going before a judge in court. A lawyer is the first step in the right direction, I would be careful....it the baby born yet? When is the baby due? Do you know the birthmother? What does she want....visits, contact, pictures, letters? Talk to a lawyer ASAP, and all the dealings from this point on need to be through a lawyer. I know this sounds harsh...but it is better to protect yourself, than get attached to a baby and have to give the baby back!
2007-09-06 06:51:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It can vary a lot depending on which state you live in. You'll want to verify that your sate does allow independent adoptions without the use of an agency. (a few states don't), and you'll probably still need to complete a homestudy. Some states have other requirements for this type of adoption as well.
Also remember that although it probably won't be as expensive as an agency adoption, legal and court fees can still run over $10,000, and some other costs may also be involved.
Here are a few sites that might be helpful to you
http://www.adoptivefamilies.com/articles.php?aid=1017
http://adopting.adoption.com/child/independent-adoptions.html
Good luck to you on your adoption journey, I wish you the best.
2007-09-05 17:36:26 · answer #4 · answered by Angela R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would contact a lawyer to discuss this with. I know you will have to terminate the parental rights of the parents. Also you have to decide if you will remain in contact with the parents to send pictures possibly. Make sure you know what the family expects. Make sure you can make that kind of commitment financially and emotionally. Prepare yourself for any of the disappointment that could go with the adoption procedures. I wish you the very best of luck and admired you for choosing to give a child a loving home. Again Please contact a lawyer for advice God Bless you.
2007-09-05 09:20:55 · answer #5 · answered by pebblesphd 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should call the Dept. of Social Services in your state. Ask for the Adoptions unit and they will point you in the right directions. There are certain forms that need to be filled out, you will be given a new birth certificate stating you are the parents of this child. There are Indian Heritage forms and letters that need to be sent... there is a lot to adoption, but it is completely within your reach! Good luck!
P.S. I've heard of a lot of women who adopt children and then soon after get pregnant naturally on their own!
2007-09-06 08:27:47 · answer #6 · answered by TwinMommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your state's adoption laws. We have done them that way in the law firm where I work, but most states have more stringent requirements than that. The judge may say that bio daddy has to sign off, and if he is nowhere to be found, he may say everything must be done to find him, exhausting all possibilities before finalizing the deal. A guardian ad litem (attorney for the baby) may or may not be required. A home study may or may not be required. There are all kinds of things that may or may not have to happen, and you need to talk to an adoption attorney in your state to know for sure.
2007-09-05 09:22:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Each state's laws are different regarding adoption...I would get a lawyer that specializes in adoption in your state.
There are papers that are drawn up beforehand that both parties need to understand prior to the baby being born.
2007-09-05 09:20:11 · answer #8 · answered by SisterSue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ther are still legal fee to think of. You need a lawyer.
InOklahoma they have "Oklahoma Alternative Resources" 918-742-8883 They provide lawyers on a slidding scale (very good ones I might add) Even if you do not live in OK give them a call and see if they can refer you to an orgnazation in your state.
Good Luck I am so HAPPY for you guys!
2007-09-06 06:53:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should speak to a lawyer and have them draw up everything before hand, you don't want to wait too long and then have everything fall through. The lawyer can tell you everything that you will need to do. I would speak to the lawyer as soon as possible. Make sure that the mother signs all of the papers as well as you.
2007-09-05 09:13:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋