Do guys say things to hurt there mate feelings because they scared themselves or the really mean what they say

Answer 1

Depends. Are you SURE that he actually meant to hurt you, or did you just take his words the wrong way?

When people are angry, sometimes they say things that they don't mean. But it depends on the person.

Answer 2

We say it because when we are too nice, we get used,
and become your friends. So we learned to be mean and jerks.