How did they take it? What happen.
2007-09-05 08:39:59 · 40 answers · asked by Pumpkin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
during the marriage counseling session, i recall i said "i don't think i ever loved you".
when i said it, i was suffering from a bad bad depression. when you're depressed, you're numb. you don't remember things you used to feel, thus you say things that are not true.
long story short, wife didn't and couldn't understand depression and we ended up in a divorce..... actually, the best thing that ever happend to me.
2007-09-05 08:45:53 · answer #1 · answered by James 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is such a hard thing to hear, especially if the person still loves you. What I have done in the past is tried to be as compassionate as possible when I ended a relationship. Rather than saying what is not longer, I focus on what is different about ME. So, I might say, I've been changing and I'm becoming a different person that I was when we got together. I love these things about you ... but I also need some other things that I am not getting in our relationship. It's more about trying to honor who I am becoming than anything more. You have been a special part of my life and that will always be a part of me. Now, we both deserve to be with someone who gives the other what they really want and need. I just cannot give you those things any longer.
2007-09-05 08:46:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not easy to say it out in just those words right away. But you will try to get the message across by your conduct for example, if you use to call on her or him three times a day, you do not do so anymore etc etc. Then when confronted by the other party, you might be forced to spell it out but strangely, people tend not to tell another that they have fallen out of love. I guess the same with relationship matters, we tend to send messages and receive them at the same time less verbally but more by our actions to indicate one thing or another. Read the signs. How do the other sad react ? Well, they are not silly and usually they will get the signals and read the message. Not easy but unless the relationship is very intimate and serious, the one left behind will get on with their life.
2007-09-05 08:48:13 · answer #3 · answered by Huang W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i dated a guy for 4 years, we were way to young but we went through alot together, and we thought we were bound to get married. well we both grew up and became who we are today and we were not right for eachother. He took it hard, asked his parents to get him into anger managment (one reason i didnt want to be with him any more is that is temper got out of hand) and to get him in with a shrink. He sat in his room only eating once a day and going to the bathroom bed for like 3 days, he didnt listen to music or anything just stared. so his parents asked him what they could do. It was very hard for me to know he was hurting like that but i could not be with him anymore. now we are cool when we see eachother out, i am there for him if he really needs me and vise versa but it took a long time to get to that. and now he has had help with his issues and is a better person.
2007-09-05 08:45:03 · answer #4 · answered by DP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, and it sucks.The thing was that we were horrible for each other and just needed to move on. No one wanted to make the first move, so I just caved in and did it. Most emotional day of my life, and the hardest thing I've ever had to do.
He didn't take it well - eventually, got over it, and now we're best friends! My husband and I hang out with him and his wife all the time!!
2007-09-05 08:45:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i never told someone that i didnt love them but i was told that and it hurt and still does and that was a while back when it happened. truth is i still love the guy but i really dont want to have anything to do with him after he hurt me like he did plus we got into a big fight too.
2007-09-05 08:44:32 · answer #6 · answered by paula 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loving someone and being in love with someone are worlds apart!
I don't throw that word around...but I did fall out of love with someone...but I am still very close to this day. We will never stop loving each other - but just not in love with each other...
2007-09-05 08:44:03 · answer #7 · answered by indiansbearsandangels 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i say it in the nicest possible way depending on how deserving i think the guy is.
i've never had a bad break up yet because i usually lay them down by showing disinterest for a week first then finally say it the nicest possible way. so they kind of expect it really. but it sounds scary now some here mentioned they had their ribs broken.
2007-09-05 08:48:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I made love to her first then told her it was over and she cried and locked herself in the bathroom at the motel and would'nt let me in.
So I left and put twenty dollars on the table for her taxi fare and took the rest of the pizza home with me.
2007-09-05 08:44:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No but I had someone tell me that once. I flipped out, left, and never really recovered. Of course we'd been together for 6 years and had a child together. Now I'm just a player at heart and I never get too close.
2007-09-05 08:42:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋