He or she was still a virgin in his or her 40s? Would you think there was something wrong with them, or would you be proud of them? Would you think they were chaste, or would you assume some hidden perversion?
2007-09-05 08:22:55 · 26 answers · asked by ZombieTrix 2012 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
As for the hidden perviness.... I've heard of people not trusting people who are older and have not had serious relationships... I guess I always assumed they thought they were pervy!
2007-09-05 08:36:45 · update #1
Basically I would not worry about him/her. Sure, possibilities would go through my mind (Gay? Asexual? etc.) but I would not dwell on it simply because whatever the reason, I will accept it. If the child was gay and eventually told me about it I would make it clear to him/her that it is ok with me and also make it clear that his/her lover is welcome in our home.
But to consider the question as it is asked, how would you know for sure about the virginity? After all, it's something that I personally would not ask him/her.
2007-09-05 11:55:06 · answer #1 · answered by randy_plrm 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is wrong with a 40 plus year old virgin? I have a friend that is in her 50's and is still a virgin. I believe they are chaste. Have to have a perverted mind to believe some hidden perversion.
2007-09-05 15:34:28 · answer #2 · answered by RK 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't let the world make it seem like something is wrong. The more spiritual a person the less sexual. Sex today is put on a pedestal because people today are so material and sensual that they have lost the abilty to grow the spirit self. Sex is worshiped everywhere in the big screen, in the media and advertising. It's used as a tool to control and manipulate people, especially on a subconscious level. The person that can break free from its grip, especially by denying an immoral lifestyle, is on the way to cultivating the real God centered self.
2007-09-05 15:42:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Obviously that would depend on the reasons for still being a virgin, and how it affected his/her life. I would be proud that an unmarried person persevered in staying chaste, and if he/she was content, I would be too.
As to the "hidden perversion," what kind of perversion would a person engage in and still be a virgin?
2007-09-05 15:34:05 · answer #4 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it were my child I would be concerned as it would mean they are not making any deeper conections with others which is a sign of emotional and mental issues.. I urge them to seek counseling to firgure out what issues were leadng to them being so disconnected from others...
I have 3 children ages 19(d), 18(s) and 10(d) they have shown normal interest in sex for their ages.... The older 2 are sexually active for about 6 months and 10 months respectively... The youngest is still in the "boys have cooties they are disgusting and gross" stage so she is also right on track to a normal interaction with others...
2007-09-05 15:46:27 · answer #5 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'd be dissapointed.
Unless they were a priest (etc.) It shows they have no love of themselves. and they think they are useless.
Which means they are probablly contemplating suicide.
reproduction is the human drive. We do what we do for future generations. (most of the time) We work hard to leave our children legacies they can hopefully be proud of and build on.
If they havent had children..... they have technically failed at life.
My reaction would be different on if they choose to be, or if they just managed to be.
If they choose to be and werent some sort of clergy.... I may never speak to them again. If it happened, id give them a hug and tell them its ok.
2007-09-05 15:33:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's their own issue and not a perversion. Could be psychological or it could be a physical, medical condition. To assume they must be gay because they're a virgin is ludicrous. Gay people have sex too which renders them not virgins.
2007-09-05 15:40:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be proud, but I don't think I'd necessarily be worried either, if other than that the child was perfectly normal. There are some people out there who just don't have much of a libido, and some that do but practice great self control.
Would I personally want to live like that? No. But to each his (or her) own.
2007-09-05 15:30:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 1⤋
Depends on the circumstances. If they're deliberately saving themselves for someone special, I'd be extremely proud of them. If they're just socially awkward and can't find a date, I'd feel sorry for them, but its not the end of the world. I would not presume some perversion must be going on.
2007-09-05 15:32:07 · answer #9 · answered by Nightwind 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Why would being a virgin at that age be something to be proud of? I'd be annoyed if she lost her virginity at 14 or 15, but to still be a virgin at that age isn't normal. She'd be denying her natural humanity, and that would worry me.
2007-09-05 15:31:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋