Is this wrong?

Question

My sister has a 3 year and a 7 month old... Now, I have no children, but I think this is wrong.... She will take and no matter wear we are she will change these kids' diapers everywhere.... She has changed them outside during a parade.... She has changed them at Burger King while other people were around eating.... She has changed them in a shoe store..... Do you think this is wrong?

Also she does not buckle the 3 year old in his car seat, she will just let him sit in there and hse don't think there is nothing wrong with this....

With the 7 month old, that poor child lives in his car seat.... Even has a flat head from it... The kid doesn't even no how to roll over yet, or lift his head.... why doesn't she see that this is all wrong, or is it just me beings I don't understand cause I am not a parent...?

I have tried telling her that changing the babies in public is gross, and with the not buckling in car seat is dangerous.... she does not want to hear it.... She thinks she is the perfect parent.

Answer 1

Ok, sometimes you have to change a diaper in a place you would not normally do so, but you have to have respect for the people around you. If people are eating around you, not the best place that you can pick. I have had to change my baby on the hood of my car before because their were no restrooms around.

It is VERY wrong that she is not buckling the 3 year old in. The child is in a lot of danger. If you are with her, buckle him up. Tell her this can be concered child neglet in most states.

If the 7 mth old can not hold his head up, he needs to be checked out by a doctor. At 7 mths he should be holding his head up, and even trying to sit on his own.

I don't know how old your sister is, but I do think a good parenting class would help her understand what her kids need from mom.

Answer 2

Well my answer is kinds of, yes, and yes.
I have changed my children on a changing pad in the grass at a park that had no restrooms. A parade has lots of people around so I probably would have gone away from the people to change them but since there would be no bathrooms I would have done it. As far as Burger King and the Shoe store, there should have been bathrooms so there is no excuse there, just laziness.

The three year old not being buckled in the car seat is absolutely wrong, and depending on where you live illegal.

The 7 month old living in the car seat is neglectful. I hate it when parents keep their babies in the car seat all day. They need interaction, time on their tummies and to just stretch out.

I am a parent of two, so you are not alone in thinking this is wrong.

Answer 3

Diaper changing: she should at least ask to use the restroom so that she can properly clean the child up and use the trash cans to discard the dirty diapers. If restrooms are unavailable, then yes, she by all means, needs to chage them, as wearing dirty diapers can cause rashes which in turn, can be painful to the child. Or, she could take them out to the car and change them, there. If excessive heat outside and the car is hot, I wouldn't.

As for the car seat not being buckled, it should be, because that will keep the child from being extremely hurt or killed in case of an accident. Also, there are child seat belt laws in effect, due to parents negligence in regards to this. She's not thinking about the welfare of her child.

I think she's just plain lazy and is only thinking of herself. The 7 month old should be able to manage to do these things you mention.

No, I do not think you are wrong, & something needs to be done about it...what does your mother & father think about her behavior? Next time she takes the kids in for a check up with the pediatrician, go with her and ask the dr. about your complaints, in front of your sister, and let her hear his response to her actions...

Answer 4

Your sister should always try to find a rest room to change the diapers. It seems she is almost always in a place where there is one easily accesible.
Also, the 3 year old should be buckled in and the baby shouldn't spend too much time in the car seat.
It will be hard to talk about this with your sis as she will obviously take the stance that you have no children so you have no right to preach to her. I would maybe read up on the seat belt laws and maybe find an article and give it to her showing why taking the extra minute to buckle up is so important.

Answer 5

You seem to have better parenting instincts than your sister. There's probably not much you can do to help here, but remember this stuff for when you have a child of your own.

Baby's should not be changed in the middle of an eating establishment. It's not a question of modesty, its a question of people not needing to smell human waste while they are trying to eat. Most places have changing tables in restrooms.

In my state, she will get a ticket if she doesn't buckle the 3 year old into his seat. And what she is thinking by leaving that poor baby in a car seat all the time, I can't imagine.

Love these children when you get the chance. They'll need it.

Answer 6

well moms have to be at least a little discreet when changing babies. if there is no changing station available to change the diaper in public restrooms, I would take the baby out to my car and change him there. as for the car seat, the 3 yr old has to be buckled in. Why even have a car seat if you dont buckle them in? that is very unsafe. At 7months old a baby should be able to lift his head and probably even roll over as long as there arent any physical problems with the child.

Answer 7

Everyone thinks they can do better.

If they are not rolling over there is something else wrong. Even if the 7 months old lays a lot he/she should be able to sit up on her/his own.

And no I don't think changing a diaper is gross in the sense you are making it. Sometimes there isn't anyother place to change it. A parade where was she to go? The other places she really should had gone to the restroom. It's very inconsiderate to behave that way.

Answer 8

The diaper changing is gross and unsanitary, if it's at the table or near where people are eating. It's wrong in that people deserve not to have unsanitary processes take place near their meals. The unbuckeled car seat is worse than wrong- it's illegial and she could be ticketed and fined and he could be hurt or killed if they had an accident. The baby sounds like he's being neglected- so maybe your parent's or her husband/boyfriend should have an intervention and step in to see that she shapes up. How old is this woman?

Answer 9

I have complained to management when I see women or men changing a kid in a restaurant. It's unsanitary and it's disgusting and nothing more than sheer laziness because they can't waddle their fat as ses to the restroom or car to change their child.

And of COURSE you should buckle a child into a car seat. It doesn't take a genius to figure that out.

Answer 10

I really feel sorry for those poor babies. Maybe your sister does not know any better than what she is doing to her babies. Some people are just ignorant when it comes to taking care of their children. I remember my aunt when her children were babies they had flat heads from never being turned from side to side. My dad would say still to this day that she was the reason that the oldest one ended up being retarded. Maybe you should help your sister out every now and then with her babies. It sounds like she is just ignorant when it comes to her children.