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Question

How long should a woman keep you at bay before having sex with you? I mean it, I know some guys are going to answer 5seconds or something like that... But do you form an opinion about a woman based on how long she waits to have sex with you? Like what would you think if she had sex with you after3 dates, or 5, or waited 3 months?

Answer 1

For me, I can honestly say I couldn't care less. However, I will obviously think of her differently if she has sex with me on say the third date rather than the third month, that's just the way it is. Any action taken will bear a consequence as well as an opinion, so either way, I will think something of the girl.

I, personally, don't see the big deal about sex, everyone puts it on the proverbial pedestal, and makes it seem as though it's the only thing that matters, in women, in relationships, and in general, but it's really not. There is so much more to relationships and women and in LIFE that it's scary, and I think that if one is not so stressed out, constantly thinking about sex, that they will enjoy life more, enjoy women more, and enjoy relationships a LOT more, seeing as they would have to honestly care about the person they were with for things other than sex.

Thinking about sex is natural, and wanting it is even more natural, but that doesn't mean that men should be seen as animals, as I know they are in the eyes of some women. Men who think like that do not set a good standard for the rest of us, and there is so much more to most men that one would actually think at first glimpse, espescially if a woman comes in biased against men and thinking that all they care about is sex.


So, I'm sorry to get a little off topic there, but I do feel that it relates to your question in a way. And like I said before, for me personally as a guy, sex matters a lot less than you would think, and the time that sex is had in a relationship matters even less.

That said, any time sex is involved there will be thoughts had about the girl involved, and as a rule of thumb, the sooner it occurs, the more negatively (or for some men in some cases positively) she is seen as. But, once the relationship comes to a certain point - and this point will vary between different people and relationships - both man and woman can feel comfortable enough with each other and know each other well enough already, to not have the time that they have sex affect their relationship in a negative way, or view each other differently because of it.

Answer 2

It's better to wait until you are married. If he really loves you with a lasting love then he will wait, but if he's only temporarily interested in you then he'll want sex before marriage. He might even promise to marry you, but deep inside it was only so he could "get some." Also, according to the Bible, it is a sin to have sex before marriage. On top of that, the psychological factors should be addressed. When you have sex with someone, there is a strong emotional bond created, whether intended or not, whether noticed or not. This bond will affect your behavior in ways you may not expect, and it will most definitely outlast any relationship. Finally, if you do have premarital sex and you happen to marry that same person, then your spouse may have buried emotions concerning your premarital sex, which can hamper your relationship and sexual intimacy.

Answer 3

not too short but not too long either. about having an opinion on how long a woman waits to have sex with us...
As a man, of course i fantasize about that on how and what would she do when we haven't had sex for a long time.. would she growl like a tiger or be timid but deep inside wants to jump on the bed and get down and dirty.
On the 3rd date will be an ideal time, we can sense the urge of woman and if i'm not mistaken most of us do....

Honestly, we guys don't want the easy to get type of gurls EXCEPT if she is SuperHot. we also want to keep it smooth and tasty if i must say that... hope i'd help.

Answer 4

That depends on how strong the attraction and chemistry is between the two(2)* people involved. Same day that you met without even going out on a date. Speaking from personal experience.*

Answer 5

for me, sex is not the only thing i expect from relationship. so, if the gal that i love truly, tells me to wait for years. i am okay. i think if a guy is 1. mature 2. truly loves you 3. understands you , than he will have no problem in waitin for sex.

mature means, mature in real life situation , to know which is importnat and what..like that.

Answer 6

When you really feel its OK for you and not only for him,the time doesn't matter cause he may wait have sex then say good bye anyways,so its not a matter of time I think, its more on doing it cause you really want to and not being rushed or anything El's.
take care

Answer 7

3 months is too long, but if they let you straight away its too soon. I'd say, if you want to keep someone interested, but not look easy, about 2-3 weeks is about right.

Answer 8

it all depends if you want to keep the guy. You wait to long, there's other fish in the ocean.. Second date max.

Answer 9

Well, its not just about one person's opinion. I might say 3rd date and your boyfriend or date might not be ready in that much time. So, it usually depends on both of you.

When you both are ready, just do it. My eyes, ears and mouth is zipped. :))

Answer 10

any GOOD guy that truly respects and cares for you will wait however long YOU need in order to be completely comfortable.