If you was a homosexual, would you let your friends & family know about it?

Question

Or, would you just move somewhere else, and start over from scratch?

Answer 1

This a difficult question. I myself am not a lesbian, but I sympathize with anyone who has to tell their family about being gay.

I suppose it would depend on what type of family you have. If they are relatively liberal, then they may have no serious qualms.

However, if they are fundamentalist Christians, they will likely scorn a person who "comes out". I know, real Christian-like right?....(lol).

Either way, I think one should be honest about this. Although, I think it's better to announce this once they are out of the home and no longer dependant on others financially to survive, otherwise it could be a terrible thing on a daily basis.

In life you have to be yourself. If the people around one cannot accept it, then they truly do not love the person who does "come out". They are not worthy of any loyalty or love themselves either. In the case where one's family turns on them completely then yes, moving away and starting over is best. One can find other people who can become like family (perhaps better).

If the family is 50/50 on the matter, well stick with the people who have shown true love and acceptance, it's not fair to punish them for the other's ignorance.

Answer 2

If you WERE a homosexual, yes, you should be true to yourself and let you family and friends know about it. Sexuality is a big part (but not all) of who you are, and living your life in the closet is no way to live. If your friends and family can't accept you because of some ridiculous religious belief, then at least you tried. You might be surprised by their reaction. A lot of people who condemn homosexuality in general have no problem loving their homosexual children and friends. Also, "gay" sounds a little less clinical/religious than "homosexual".

Answer 3

I wouldn't have to tell my family and friends anything! I am very close to my family, and they would already know anyway!
I do not understand what all the furor is about here! This is a lifestyle that is not chosen,as Homosexuals are born, not created, it is not a lifestyle that is wanted, as in ''Gee, I think I'll choose a lifestyle that will get me hated, reviled, and ect'!
Gays do not bother anyone else, except when they are standing up for their rights! They sure don't go into the bedrooms of all their critics, and tell them what THEY can do ,there!
Well, that's my rant, sorry to take your space, but these jerks really aggravate me! (Homophobes! Not Gays)

Answer 4

I "is" a homosexual. And everybody knows about it.

I couldn't have "come out" (I hate that phrase) in HS, that's for sure (even though I messed around with a couple of my friends). I dated girls and did the whole standard popularity thing. It wasn't until I went to college and "started from scratch" that I was able to be open about it.

It's hard because so many people are full of this really abstract kind of disgust for the idea of "homosexuality." If the only thing they know about you is that you're gay, they'll hate you for it. But I've found that petty bigotries like this cease to matter on a personal level. I'm friends with every kind of person, including many who would probably say, if asked, that they "disapprove" of homosexuality. People have a lot of abstract opinions that don't really correspond with reality - especially (dare I say?) certain "religious" people.

Answer 5

I personally have the attitude that you take me as I am, if you don't like it then you can leave my life. So I personally would tell my family and friends. You can always make new friends. You can't get new family but they may eventually come around if they don't approve. But it is your life. You need to live it that way. Not like it is someone elses life. Good Luck in whatever your decision may be.

Answer 6

It certainly depends. I came out to my family and was accepted. I know someone who is afraid of being disowned by his family due to their religious beliefs. If one has the option of moving somewhere else, I'd say tell the family, and if the reaction is negative, you can move. You won't even have to "leave town" really. Get your own place, and live your own life.
It was harder for me to tell my parents that I'm Pagan, but I did that, too. It took more explaining, and I know they'd rather I remained Catholic, but they haven't shut me out.

Answer 7

The choice is yours, no one can make that choice for you.

It is risky and potentially very hurtful if you are rejected by your family and friends. I would recommend you build up a support system OUTSIDE that group of people first and then tell them.

In case the worst should happen, you will at least have a safety net and people to fall back on for support and acceptance.

Try your nearest PFLAG or gay organisation.

Answer 8

If that were the case I would let them know. They could take it or leave it.

Family and true friends might not agree, but they should still love the person regardless.

Personally, I would like to know LESS of what people choose to do in their own home and what orientation they are.
I don't understand why we have to know everything about everyone no matter how personal.

Answer 9

Of course I would let people know. I don't try to hide things. Look at my past answers and see what kinds of things I have shared. If I were homosexual I'd be adding that to the answers that I post here.

Answer 10

Since you're asking this in religion - I am going to assume that you or your family/friends are religious people.

I would say that you let your family and friends know. It may surprise you at how receptive they might be about this whole thing. I don't think skipping town is the best remedy.