Hello everyone. I need you're help once again.
Ever since my mother and father divorced, my father has been bringing to his house some really fat lady. I see her when I'm going to my father's house and many times she and him stay the entire night in his room--with the door locked. He says "Oh she's just a friend" and "She helps me take care of my daughter (his lovechild)". Me and the lady don't talk--at all. Even when I came back from Japan from my six week homestay program, she didn't say anything to me except hello.
Bored, I went into my dad's (or their depending on how you want to call it) room and saw two condoms in their room. Not knowing what to do, I took one of them, tore out a page of one of her sleezy trashy sex novels, rapped the condom in it and left it in the book (I didn't know what else to do).
So, what do you think I should do:
Am I just being an overreactive teen?
Should I confront him about what I saw?
Should I just leave it alone?
Thanks a lot
2007-09-05 08:03:24 · 6 answers · asked by Cheesecake 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well... that was interesting revenge therapy. Going a little crazy is not too bad ... as long as you understand why. I think, you're probably angry with your dad, and maybe your mom too for creating changes in your life that you didn't want.
AND you know... that's okay! It is.
BUT eventually instead of nutbar revenge things.. ( and that was funny!) you WILL need to talk to your dad and tell him how you feel. The two of you will need to work out some new rules which are about respecting each other. I don't think you need to get into the condom revenge BUT...
Your dad needs to understand how you feel about his lady friend or friends.
You will need to understand that your dad probably *needs* a woman in his life now that he and your mom have divorced. You don't need to like it, but he needs to respect his daughter and learn to behave like a dad instead of a dorky boy!
And your dad needs to understand that you should come BEFORE any of his lady friends. The lady friends need to understand that the man they are ... um... visiting? has a daughter who comes first in his life.
If you can't get through to your dad on your own, talk to a counsellor at school, or someone who can hook you up with some kind of group so that someone else can have the conversation with your dad.
Good luck and take care
2007-09-05 08:14:33 · answer #1 · answered by teritaur 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should probably try and get into their room and get rid of the condom you put in her book. Pranks and mean tricks will likely get you nowhere in a confrontation, and your dad may see it as a sign that you aren't mature enough to have a say in his relationship.
If you can't, though, confess to what you saw and did, explain why, and apologize.
In either case, explain why you feel this way about her. Stay calm and don't yell. Tell him about how she acts towards you, because he may not even know! Just don't lie or exaggerate to sound like a victim, because when he talks to her and she finds out you lied, she will not be willing to work with you.
Finally, tell him you want him to be happy, but don't feel she is in YOUR best interests, and ask him to help you resolve your issues with her or stop seeing her.
2007-09-05 08:14:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jeez your dad picked a real winner. She sounds somewhat self based. I doubt you will get everywhere along with her yet while it grew to become into me identification flow get sis and confront her jointly and ask her why she is so advise and impolite and makes no attempt to get alongside. If that doesnt paintings i assume you may desire to easily depart her out of issues.
2016-12-12 19:06:23 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try talking to him instead of jumping the game, maybe she wants to talk to you too but she is afraid of rejection.. not everything has to be put up with a fight
2007-09-05 08:14:02 · answer #4 · answered by R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your fathers sex life is none of your business and what you did was wrong. if you have a personal problem with this woman, talk to your dad. other than that, stay the hell out of it.
2007-09-05 08:45:19 · answer #5 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
LOL... girl you are funny. Was the condoms, theirs? Or, are you saying she was cheating... I don't understand. Your dad will like who he likes... can't stop him.... just chill.
2007-09-05 08:09:27 · answer #6 · answered by Buttafli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋