Crrently involved in CPS case, which all began because my ex & his mother have been coaching my sons to call CPS whenever I do/do not do something out of revenge, all because my ex has to pay child support. He cannot prove I'm a bad parent. He would rather have my sons live with him - have me pay child support. One of my sons recently became angry w/ me because I took his cell phone- away as punishment. A week later, he & his brother got into a fight. My son ended up w/ a bruise under his eye. He went to see the school nurse. The nurse asked how he got the bruise, he told her I did it. She reported it to CPS. CPS has been on my back since then, (approx 6 months now). There's no evidence/proof that I struck my child. They never closed the case. 6 different workers were assigned, includ'g a supervisor. There's no sign of abuse. I'm not a violent person, nor do I drink/drugs-never been arrested. I filed a complaint & now they are retaliating. What can I do to get them off my back!!!
2007-09-05 07:07:11 · 10 answers · asked by ooww07 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I would not back down!!!!!
I am so sick of people that get divorced and they dont like what they have to pay in child support or because they can't sit down like adults and talk and work things out that they call cps and get our children involved.
My ex and his mother couldnt just win against me in a court of law so they called cps. She has done this every since we have been divorced. She and him need help .. They are physco. She just wrote my son a 4 page letter putting me down and most of it was religion, would be good if it wasnt coming from her, because she is such a hypocrit. I beleive in god and everything but i dont beleive you preach but dont live by waht you preach and make other think you are this holy roller. It makes me sick and she will get her day at the ended of time beleive me ........
Now as far as protective service- have you ever been to court? You should have a plan of things that you must complete to get them out of your life. If they havent opened a case and it has been longer than 30 days , then I would contact a lawyer... Because I know here in michigan they have 30 days to open a case...
the problem is your own son has said you did something.. My kids never said I did anything they tried to get me on failed to protect... I hate those words....
Anyways I would do as the other parents here said and buy yourself a nanny camera. This would protect you.... I would not back down if you didnt do anything wrong, I fought , they took my kids for 2 months and I got them back with a judge telling them to leave me alone, that I was a good parent and that they needed to investigate better. I had a lot of charcter witnesses and family to support me as well as friends and neighbors that could say what kinda of parent I was...
Something that a lot of people dont understand with a cps case , you arre guilty till proven innocent.... It is not innocent till proven guilty.... Call a lawyer....
If you want you can email me and we can talk more because beleive me I have been in your shoes with the exception to my child saying I did something. My child was coached into saying I knew and didnt do anything about it .... just as bad in my opionion.....
If you just give in you then they know that they can do this whenever they dont agree and if your kids are younger beleive me they will do this again and again.....
I really do feel for you
2007-09-05 17:16:23 · answer #1 · answered by diane33michigan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been here too. Here is what I did. I got a lawyer on the CPS. Then call the ex and told him if my girls said anything else out of the truth I would take his but back to court to have his visitation suspended, terminated or conducted with court supervision in which he would have to pay them to visit with his girls. Eventually the CPS workers rule in my favor and anymore attempts were deemed a false (cry of the wolf). The ex backed off because the court supervision would cost him at least $40 hr. each week and he didn't want to risk not seeing the girls again. Court supervised visits are wonderful they keep people from saying anything negative against either party because this only hurts the children. Now this is included in our custody orders. Be patient
2007-09-05 08:02:43 · answer #2 · answered by pebblesphd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you saying that your friend is on all kinds of drugs, or your friends mom? I am confused. I would most certainly report it. Why is the child always in the hospital, it seems that the hospital would report it also if something is going on. I agree with the first person, if something happens to that baby you will feel terrible if you have done nothing. Some people should not have children. We spay and neuter our pets, but I think some people should be, also. One more thought. Could you talk to your friend and see if she is overwelmed and would consider giving the baby up for adoption? That would probably be the best thing for the child so that she won't have a bunch of temporary homes. When you talk to her, if you do, try to make her see that she really needs to put the baby's needs first.
2016-05-17 10:10:35 · answer #3 · answered by latosha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i live in canada and this same problem with our "childrens aid" well i got rid of them in 2001 after agreeing to let a worker adopt my daughter,(long story won't get into it) stick to you guns. My sons grandparents (fathers parents) would make my son say stuff then tape it but only after asking him 1000 times the same question, well i got a nannycam and recorded every second my son was awake. My son would say on cam (without knowing he was on cam) why does nan and papa say bad stuff about you and various other things and once the judges views all 127tapes over a 3 weeks period the childrens aid was ordered to back off and close the case, and they had to pay all my legal fees.
If i was you i would get a nannycam and record everything, put a cam in every room but the bathroom to prove your case, it'll also help with your complaint against them.
If you wanna talk more email me.
2007-09-05 07:19:22 · answer #4 · answered by Wishmaster 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honestly? I would let the boys go live with their Father, but hire a lawyer to work out child support. The Father won't have to pay, but neither would you. It's called "Let's make a deal" time. In addition, I would use the lawyer to start pushing back on CPS, because they are obviously building a case and you want to nip that in the bud before your ex can use any of that against you. What a nightmare...I feel for you!
2007-09-05 07:23:14 · answer #5 · answered by julesl68 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Are they doing anything besides checking in?
Would you rather they check in from time to time, or potentially miss a child that really is being abused because there was no evidence the first time they did a visit?
The other problem is that your case is being bumped around case workers, so each new worker probably has to do a visit.
2007-09-05 07:16:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Do shared custody - they stay with you half time, they stay with him half time and no one pays support.
I don't blame CPS for following thru for once. Cooperate with them if you have nothing to hide.
2007-09-05 07:48:25 · answer #7 · answered by Sandy Sandals 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It seems the damage has already been done. maybe its time to let your kids go live with thier father. If your kids are lying about it you have no chance in court. If they don't live with you then you won't need the child support and you will save money and give them the child support they need.
2007-09-05 07:42:57 · answer #8 · answered by howie r 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
The only choice you have at this point is to cooperate with them and their investigation. Be open with them, don't coach your children or tell them to say anything to the CPS workers--I'm not saying you have coached them, but it would be best to not discuss it with them at all. Don't become angry or rude with the workers--just open your home to them and give them access to your children.
2007-09-05 07:16:26 · answer #9 · answered by jilldaniel_wv 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋
obviously your boys don't want to be with you. let them live with their dad.
i can see it now, 10 thumbs down.
2007-09-05 07:14:25 · answer #10 · answered by :) 3 · 3⤊ 11⤋