Ok your brother married an abusive sociopath who abused your brother and her kids(gave them medicine just so they'd go to sleep for example and neglect them). Well they're divorced, the kids are taken away from her.
The ex wife of your bro emails you and adds you to her myspace. You a forgiving person you are is tempted to email her because you're curious as to how she's doing. But you also wonder if you contact her, will it endanger one of your neice's lives.(the other two kids aren't your brother's and they've been put in a foster home. Your neice (your bro's daughter) lives with your mom).
Email her or not? Or just block her?
2007-09-05 06:58:28 · 25 answers · asked by Butterfly 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Why isn't my brother raising his own child? he's too lazy and he uses farming as an excuse. According to me.
2007-09-05 07:04:09 · update #1
Hmm, i have a situation similar to this (luckily no kids involved)
If you have her myspace, that should be enough information to keep your curiosity occupied.
be supportive of your brother and don't bother with that b--. blood is thicker than water.
2007-09-05 07:24:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been in situations very similar and from my experience I would just say leave it alone. Don't delete or block her, just don't try and iniate contact. I see a general goodness in most people, even ones who have committed terrible crimes. I don't hate the person, I hate the action. But don't let that kind of philosophy get you wrapped up in other people's drama. Plus, you're brother may feel you've betrayed him if you befriend her. I'd just leave well enough alone. The expression 'curosity killed the cat' is a common expression for a reason. Live your own life.
2007-09-05 14:14:52 · answer #2 · answered by Kristen J 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The first thing to ask your self is "Does she know where your niece is and if so, does she know where your mom is?". If she doesn't, you want to make sure that any information you send to her will not lead her to your niece. If she's already aware of your niece's location then limit any contact you have to basics i.e. how she is doing, how your niece is, but not anything about schedules, schools or activities. In this case it's better to err on the very paranoid side.
Edit:
On second thought, I'll agree with the consensus to block her. You might want to change your email and other contact informantion as well.
2007-09-05 14:06:50 · answer #3 · answered by Pirate AM™ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No don't email her....I'd stay away for her. I could see why you would be curious but is it really worth it? She probably just wants insider information on your brother and/or your niece. I think she is just trying to use you.... She sounds like a terrible person and I'd just forget about her. If you are that curious as to how she is then maybe try and ask around......
2007-09-05 14:27:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to be careful with crazies like that. She will likely be trying to get info from you the whole time.
I would block her on myspace. There is too much info she will have access to. 'COurse, that only really matters if your profile is otherwise private.
I would email her CAREFULLY. If she is single minded in her quest for knowledge, cut off communication. I think it is safer to have a bit of contact with her than none at all.
2007-09-05 14:15:10 · answer #5 · answered by Blearg 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Email her and ask her how she is doing. Perhaps she is getting treatment and is better. Do not under any circumstances give her any info about the location of the kids. Don't confirm their location if she thinks she knows. Don't give her any information about where anyone is located or anyone's phone number or email addresses. No school names, no favorite activities. In fact I would make discussion of the kids off limits until and if you establish she is changed.
2007-09-05 14:08:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Whether you reply or not, don't give any detail of yourself and your niece. If You can't be careful and strong enough, block her. I've seen many stories on tele about mad people can be so clever at using others, at stalking, using sentimental blackmail, etc.
2007-09-05 14:08:19 · answer #7 · answered by Frederic R 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just block her...You dont need to waste your time on her. Who cares hows shes doing...She should probably be in jail for what she did to those kids. You dont need to associate yourself with a person like that.
2007-09-05 14:08:44 · answer #8 · answered by blue-eyez 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
BLOCK - she's obviously nuts & it would be just asking for trouble and yes, it would possibly endanger nieces. Plus, it's your brother's business and not yours (yes, I know, she added you to her myspace), so stay out of it.
2007-09-05 14:02:11 · answer #9 · answered by suzanne g 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If i was you i would email her but don't add her. There are ways of checking on her but keeping her from hurting anyone. Just keep it strictly about how she is doing, don't bring up the children and if she asks cut it off. Also I would ask the brother if it was okay first
2007-09-05 14:04:05 · answer #10 · answered by Tre 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋