Fear of Death?

Question

does anyone else here, have the biggest fear of death?
i know it is goin to happen to all of us, and we just dont know when, but i think its the not knowing that gets me. i really scare myself thinkin about this so much, and i know i shouldnt.

i keep thinking what will happen when my parents, or brothers die.. its my family dying, and eventually there will be nothin left of my family.

i know what i mean, i just cant explain it. please dont think im a freak, and im just so scared, and i dont want to spend my hole life worrying about it as i know death waits for nobody.

i sometimes ly in my bed at night and wonder what will happen, i keep thinking when my family dies there is a feeling inside me, in my chest and its not sore but it is the strangest feeling, and i get it when i think of this. new people coming in to my street taking over the houses of my family and our neighbours that have been there all their lives. makin new memories, when it was ours to begin with!

help

i am so scared and all i want is for people to advise me on how i can get out of this situation, or people that were like this and have gotten past it..

please

I know this is bad, but i find that 3 nights out of the week i always go in and check on my parents just to make sure they are still breathing.

Answer 1

My dad just died, he had been sick awhile, but it was still so devastatingly sad. The pain is like this big huge fist just squeezing the life right out of my heart. There are days I'm so sad it hurts to get out of bed. But I worry so much about my mom being alone all the time so because of that I change my schedule to check on her. Because she is so lonely, I find myself spending lots of time with her. There is a void that can't be filled when someone you love passes away. It is strange, because I don't want to say anything that might make her even sadder. But I can't forget so I talk about him anyway. And it is always, Pa would have done this or liked that. He would have thought that was funny, or he cooked something better than anyone. Just the other day at breakfast, I said "Pa sure like his jelly didn't he?"

You will never forget and you miss them everyday! The thing you must realize though, no matter how much you hurt and miss them, the world does not stop. The sun will rise again the next day, the world keeps turning no matter how sad you are feeling. And no matter how hard it is, you have to go on and live your life, or the rest of your family suffers.
The greatest comfort is, depending on your religious preferences, i know he is in a better, pain-free place at home with the place his Lord and Savior Jesus Christ prepared for him in heaven.

Answer 2

Oh yeah...the fear of death really affected my life. I was really paranoid about driving, I couldn't sleep because I'd lay in bed thinking of how I didn't want to die, I'd have mini-panic attacks especially when I was riding with my boyfriend (he drives like an idiot), I'd freak out because I didn't know if I was a good enough Christian to go to heaven, etc. It was really bad. And then...I did die. I died on an operating table while having a bowel resection. All I can say is that I don't fear it anymore and I'd rather be there than here. Enjoy the time you have here and stop obsessing over it. When you get 'over there' you'll want to kick yourself for wasting your time worrying about it instead of freeing yourself from your fear and living. Just let it go and accept it.

Answer 3

Well I don't know if this will work but here goes: It is normal
to worry about death but really know one knows whats going
to happen and really everyone may have some worries but your not so different your definitely the same as most people
some people don't talk about it and some do when your in your bedroom I would suggest a good book to read that may stop you from worrying but do please remember that people care about you and are probably in turn thinking maybe the same as you are I hope this sincerely helps take care!

Answer 4

Your fear is common. A lot of people fear death because they don't know what to expect. OK, first of all...you will never forget your life long memories...no matter who lives in your house. Second, not to get religious on you, but if you knew what to expect after death...you wouldn't be so afraid to die. if this fear is consuming most of your life maybe you need to find something else to keep your mind busy. You have so much time to think because your mind is idle. An idle mind is big trouble. We are our biggest enemy and we control our thoughts. you said yourself you know that it is an obsession. Get a Hobie...do your self a favor and live life to the fullest and you will have no regrets.

Answer 5

Well, everyone has their set time that they're going to die. You're family isn't just going to disappear overnight. How old are you? If you're still young, don't worry about it. You're parents will be there to see you get married and have children. My mother is 32, she has three sisters and a brother who are all in there 30s.

My grandmother is in her 60s and HER mother is still alive. So don't worry. Today, nearly 70% of America's population lives to be over 80 years old. Everything will be just fine.

Answer 6

When I was younger I was afraid of death. Then I lost my dad & didn't think I'd ever get over it. I did, but it's still there. As I got older I lost friends & family, then got very sick myself. I came to realize that there are much worse things than death - like living in a state of paralysis. Each moment is a gift meant to be enjoyed. Worry changes nothing except your state of mind. Get out there and start enjoying. Besides, you're probably going to live longer than me, GOOD for you!

Answer 7

you poor thing! hon, this is normal so don't think you're a freak. try talking to people you trust. letting it out should help. but instead of thinking about these things, focus on living the best life possible, enjoying the fresh air, talking with friends and family, making your loved ones happy. live your life to the fullest, and when mr.death comes, you'll know that your life was well lived.

good luck and god bless!

Answer 8

I wouldn't stress out about death live for today not tomorrow you never know what tomorrow brings. Enjoy your life. Whenever someone is meant to pass on it will happen so no use to worry about that. When people pass on it is great to meet new people that will help you get through your situation. That's one reason why we are put on this earth to help others out in their time of need...

Answer 9

You aren't a freak. Fear of death is VERY common. Being a mother of two young children, I can't help but think of what would happen if I died, if they died.

It's a natural thing, but it shouldn't consume you. I think you should talk to a counselor and see if they can help you any. Please don't feel like something is wrong with you because your fear is very legitimate. Sometimes people just need extra help overcoming it.

Hang in there and best of luck to you!

Answer 10

I would suggest going to a psychiatrist because there's no quick fix to this type of phobia. It will plague you regardless of what anyone says.
What helps for me is having a better understanding of the natural world, such as the law of conservation of mass and thermodynamics. It's not so scary if you understand nothing really dies or disappears into nothing.