Can't stop thinking about someone other than my Spouse..?

Question

I love the man I'm with, so why can't I stop thinking about this other man? I'm still faithfull, but I've had to stop talking to this other person, in fear I won't be.. what do I do???

Answer 1

if you strongly feel that you love the person your with then you can work it out but if you think you don't know if you feel un sure you better either talk it out with your spouse or . but my believe is if you really love the one your with you wouldn't think of some one else . that's what a think. now you need to think it over and remember what I said

Answer 2

The whole thing with friendship with the opposite sex, while you're in a marriage or serious relationship deal does not work. Women especially are very naive when it comes to this subject. Wanting attention, yet at the same time, thinking they can distance themselves from attraction.

You must be kidding about this whole situation because you put yourself into it. I have seen this before and let me tell you that it's nothing but a disaster. It tears families apart, it causes pain and suffering, resentment, and eventually it could cost life and at the least money.

We're human and we're supposed to find more then one person out there attractive. No, we're not all unique and we find some features irresistible about each other (programmed by nature to be that way). In fact I would not be surprised if the things that drove you toward your husband are the same things that are driving you toward this man.

In the end, with all this said and done all you have to be now is honest. Honest to this guy (who may not care), honest to your husband (who will care a lot), and honest to yourself (because otherwise you will get consumed with lust). I hope you work it out somehow, someway, but know that the damage is done and there is no turning back now.

Answer 3

Maybe you should "do" it with this other man to get it out of your system once and for all.