A very generous family member gave a card to my husband and me after our daughter was born. the card contained a check for a large ammount of money. I think she would want us to use the money to help care for our baby. My husband thinks we should put the whole ammount into an account that we do not touch for our daughter to have when she is older. Is there an appropriate way to ask the giver how she would like the money to be used? Should we comprimise and use half to start an account for baby and half for current needs? Any advice would be helpful.
2007-09-05 05:39:55 · 7 answers · asked by j_lynn_griff 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Since there was no instructions on how the giver would like to see the money spent, then she left it to your discretion, of course to be used for the baby. If the baby has needs currently, then it is perfectly acceptable to spend it that way, but otherwise put it in the bank for her. I think the giver probably did mean for you to buy the baby something special though. Whatever you do with the money, it would be nice to tell the giver on the thank you card what you intend to do with the money. She will like knowing that her money is being put to a good use.
2007-09-05 08:11:33 · answer #1 · answered by missbeans 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the gift giver wanted the money spent a certain way, they would have said something in the card.
I personally side with your husband on this one. Put the money in a savings account for your daughter - maybe start a college fund with it. The money will be put to much better use putting your child through college than buying diapers :o)
2007-09-05 12:45:11 · answer #2 · answered by Go Bears! 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Use the money however would be most helpful to your daughter. (It's a gift so unless Auntie Generous said 'I'd like to help you start a college fund' you get to choose how it's spent - with the caveat that since it is clearly meant for your daughter, you use it for your daughter).
So if baby has current needs, go ahead and use it for that (and I do imagine that is what Auntie Generous had in mind). But if Baby has everything she needs, there's nothing wrong with using it to start a college fund. And absolutely you and hubby could compromise and spend half on Baby now and put half away for later.
2007-09-05 12:46:08 · answer #3 · answered by LX V 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think half n half is a great idea. I wouldnt ask the giver what to do with the money. She trusted you to decide what to do with it or she wouldnt have given it in the first place. If you need the money now .... it would be silly to stick it all away in an account. Use some for now...and some for later.
2007-09-05 12:46:49 · answer #4 · answered by pink 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would not ask the giver how the money should be used. It was left to your discretion. If your hubby and you have different ideas on it, then compromise is perfect!
2007-09-05 13:14:49 · answer #5 · answered by undone 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I kinda think your husband has the right idea......especially now a days......but if you guys need some of it I don't see why you cant do both.....
2007-09-05 12:53:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is right. Put it away.
2007-09-05 15:24:29 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋