i've been living with my bf for more that 2 years. and things change lately and he told me that we need sometime alone.i cant see the problem but because i love and respect him i gave the space he needed.however, 3 weeks later i went back to out apartment i saw a girl.then i ask alot of question if whats going on, he said nothing but im not satisfied.i ask what happen now and what he wants..and he said he wants me.Because i love him im trying to forget everything without asking, i rather stayed with him after all of this.i want to let him go he might be happy with that girl but i cant.what should i do? please
2007-09-05 04:49:11 · 19 answers · asked by need_help 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi! Need help,
Relationships are so complex, arent' they? If only they were less complicated...
I would say to you, ask yourself, What do I REALLY want for ME? Am I living out my own dreams? How do I feel day after day, deep down in my heart of hearts?
Life is short...what a very true statement. So think long & hard, write your feelings out on paper...take some time for YOU! When life presents a change, there is usually a good opportunity sitting right there waiting to be taken & will lead to bigger, better, more rewarding things...
Don't stay stuck in any rut for too long...do what YOU know is the best thing for you & your future!
Pain makes us stronger, so embrace it & let it be a positive for you...
2007-09-05 05:20:53 · answer #1 · answered by Ultra Violet 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just from the little bit you share here there are plenty of reasons to let him go.
1. he asked for it. He said "we need some time alone..." which means - he wants to be intimate with other women at his discretion.
2. just 3 weeks later, you went back to the apartment and indeed he did have another girl there.
3. You asked what the deal was and he says "nothing" which is according to you, a lie.
4. You asked all kinds of questions - ending with asking him what he wants - so of course, to stop the drama, he says "you."
5. You know deep within your heart this isn't the boy for you.
Let him go. Find a much, much more mature and better man than he ever could be. You deserve better.
Sure this will hurt. Change always hurts. But you'll be better off for it.
2007-09-05 12:03:08 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is something it will have you doing crazy things like accepting things that you shouldn't. If you love him then let him go. If things get better between you guys and he wants to come back and you still feel the love then it really is love and you guys can work it out. Sometimes we have to let love ones go no matter how hard it hurts! Stay strong and keep busy with things to take your mind off of it. Who knows someone better way better may come along! Don't say you can't b/c you can, speaking from experience. You have done all you can and one day he will realize that and it might just be too late for him b/c he missed out on a good thang!
2007-09-05 12:02:44 · answer #3 · answered by PENELOPE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are like some of the girls I grew up with you'd just get some of your friends together and beat that girl silly. Of course you are to "civilized" to do that. You probably aren't going to give him the "brow beating" he richly deserves. No, you will probably take him back, quietly, Make love together, and when he rolls over and falls asleep you will lie awake quietly wondering. ( lovingly & respectfully). Maybe you might wake up one night and instead of weeping quietly you could wake him up and tell him you want your space and he should move out for at least a month. No matter how you paint the picture it's not one you want hanging on the wall. Good luck. (you need the advice of a strong woman) Perhaps yours & his Mom's.
2007-09-05 12:06:30 · answer #4 · answered by make room for daddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let him still have the space that he thinks he needs and in the mean time maybe start doing things on my own and maybe find someone else. I think there is a reason why that girl was there and I wouldn't be able to forget that either.
Good Luck Honey
2007-09-05 11:56:28 · answer #5 · answered by Sleepy Mommy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not so much him seeing other girls, as it is he lied to you. If he would have been honest and told you that you both should see other people, I could see trying to work it out. If he can't be honest now, he won't later, when the relationship has progressed. You deserve more than this. Life is short.
2007-09-05 12:01:00 · answer #6 · answered by june clever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chick, get a grip! Forget this dude. You got all the evidence proving that he does not want you. Get a hobby, take a trip, stay away from this dude... it's gonna be hard but you'll get over it. Let him be happy with the other chick. You find your own happiness. There are other guys out there, just please don't waste your time waiting on this one.
2007-09-05 11:59:00 · answer #7 · answered by Sharda8 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should leave him i think it's wrong to be with someone you really don't love and I think it might just be the fact that you are scared to be alone you are so use to being with him it scares you to think you wont be with him but think of it like this if you let him go their is someone better out there for you, so really think about it.
Good luck and I hope I helped.
2007-09-05 11:58:50 · answer #8 · answered by Totsie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweet heart u have all the right to ask questions if u think he's messing around, dont let him intimidate u. u need to stand ur ground n let him no that ur not going to take that stuff from him tell him how u feel and if he gets mad or dodges questions then sum thins up. good luck sweetie n i hope everythin goes ok.
2007-09-05 11:59:31 · answer #9 · answered by monkey_lover05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can feel what you are feeling right now and i know how tough it is.
It's so hard to let someone go if we love him but you needed to decide.Of course you don't want to stay in a relationship that you know that you are not just the only one in his life. Just let him go if he's happier with the other woman. Don't be selfish,not because you love him you'll do what it takes just to be with him.But that is wrong,think about what he feels and what makes him happy.That's part of falling inlove..
Talk to him hun..Goodluck..main advice:set him free..
2007-09-05 12:02:14 · answer #10 · answered by chicky_me 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋