twice this has happend, first time new yrs eve, hubby calls in the afternoon and his brother informs him they forgot they had made different plans, but two wks before they accepted and just recently we had labour day bbq party they said they were coming and didnt show and didnt call to cancel or anything, im at wits end, my hubby thinks im always down on his brother, but this to me is extremely rude, but when his brother gives him some lame excuse why, hubby usually responds with oh no problem no big deal, i disagree, other times just asking them over for dinner he says he'll get back to us and then we have to chase him down for an answer, should i say anything to him or is it up to my hubby, be cuz im at the point where i cant be bothered trying what should i do
2007-09-05 04:24:36 · 9 answers · asked by marcelo F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
neither you nor your husband should say anything. just don't invite them over anymore. this is rude and inconsiderate on their part and showing very little respect to your husband and you. it's takes a lot of preparation to have someone over and the least they could do is give you advance notice that they cannot make it. i expect this from strangers and i'd definitely expect it from family.
2007-09-05 04:33:27 · answer #1 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are upset because you are doing all the work. Here's what I would do. If hubby wants family to come over say no problem. Do not cook or do anything special. If you husband asks for you to cook say honey I love you and I hate fighting with you. Since they don't seem to show up and I get pissed off with you after working my butt off cooking something for them, I decided I would rather be happy with you and have wild sex with you after they leave instead of tired of preparing something for them. If this is really important to you, please feel free and cook whatever you want...I am going to have my nails done. This way he will understand how it feels if he decides to cook and if not, then it really isn't as painful if they don't show up. If hubby complains that you aren't cooking after saying the above, then I would divorce him and his selfish family.
2007-09-05 04:40:54 · answer #2 · answered by Vicki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother is like that and so is my brother-in-law.
Just plan on them NOT coming and it works out. if they say tha they are coming, be prepared for them not to show up.
cook something that goes a long way so that you can have left overs. Don't plan steak meals or expensive courses. Do pot roasts.......they go a long way..........do soups (you can freeze).
It isn't that they intend to be rude. They really only think of themselves and what they are doing at the moment. I've learned that it has nothing to do with me or my family. It is rude from my stand point, but they don't intend for it to be (understand?)
Don't get bent out of shape (I've already done that for you), just plan dinners and if they show, ok, if not, that is ok too.
2007-09-05 04:36:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget being nice, call them yourself and tell them how u feel... they had no right to do this to u or anyone else and they made a huge mistake by doing this twice. u need to make sure this doesnt happen again and tell your hubby what u said and what u are doing and then confront this man and tell him no more invites till u know for sure he will be there...
2007-09-05 05:34:57 · answer #4 · answered by THE UK WILDCAT FAMILY 10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't make a big issue out of this. It is rather apparent that your brother-in-law is a very casual person and is more the drop-in kind of person. You would do well to not dwell on this and enjoy the other good aspects of your marriage.
2007-09-05 04:43:55 · answer #5 · answered by jcf6865 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd plan and eat all meals without giving them a second thought. If hubby says he wants to invite them over, I'd tell him not to my house he isn't.
2007-09-05 04:36:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt bother at all anymore. They are inconsiderate. You really shouldnt chase people down to get them to your house. lol. Especially the rude kind of people. Spend your time and energy on someone better. :)
2007-09-05 04:50:36 · answer #7 · answered by undone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it were me, i simply wouldn't bother asking anymore.... if i were having a BBQ or party i MIGHT them know about it, and have NO expectations of them showing up.
our happiness shouldn't depend upon what other people do, but comes from within. if the inlaws dont' come over, who cares... i don't.....
2007-09-05 04:29:58 · answer #8 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would thank God for it.. inlaws suckkkk....
2007-09-05 04:47:57 · answer #9 · answered by Haidee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋