my boyfriend has lived with me for almost threr years. i recently bought a houde and now i have to pay a mortgage. he was not paying me anything at all . now he is leaving and moving back home.he said that he has to hel phis family , and he has not helped his family in the whole time that he has lived with me.he has said this before and never did it, he ended up comming back to my house? he all of a sudden said that there is no future for us. than he saw me crying and than said dont cry.? ? than after he got sex out of me he kicked me out of rooac because i was crying, and he said that he needed to sleep? that rooac was sappose to be the word rrom..room. i dont know what to do i am steaming right now. i dont believe him about his family
2007-09-05 04:14:59 · 20 answers · asked by stephanie a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What a jerk. I'd suggest wtite down a list of his good and bad qualities and you would find out what he really is. Leave him. Let him go. He seems like a leecher, a parasite. Living off of a girl, and then using her and her emotional and fragile state of mind. If I were you I'd bring my heavies in and kick the s hit out of him and throw his a rse out on the street.
What's worse he is using his family as ransom or an excuse. Do you really want someone like him to start a family? If you can't find anyone to deal with him I am free for the rest of this week. Opportunist losers like him p iss me off.
2007-09-05 04:26:36 · answer #1 · answered by ZZZZZZZZ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on with your life. You do not need to be treated this way. And why in the world would you have sex with him after that. You need to learn how to respect yourself. No one can respect you if you dont respect yourself. You will be better off in the future. You will find love again. Just try to be positive and understand that heartache is just a part of life but it will be ok.
2007-09-05 11:22:06 · answer #2 · answered by HottShorty78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is using his family as an excuse, he doesn't not want to take any type of responsibility! You are advancing and he's not......so you need to move on! You have wasted enough time with that guy. You can do bad by yourself! There is somebody that will treat you the way that you deserve to be treated. If nothing else, treat yourself!!! Keep your head up!
2007-09-05 11:22:15 · answer #3 · answered by Pink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's obvious---he's used you for 3 years, and now is bored.
But--you have also let him use you, so the problem is you, not him.
If you want to stop being a doormat, you have to get up off the floor. If you want to value yourself, you have to learn to say no and mean it. Take responsibility for saying no---you don't have to be used and abused---it's up to you.
Value yourself in all things, and the rest of your life will fall into place.
He will soon find another woman to leech off of.
2007-09-05 11:25:44 · answer #4 · answered by papyrusbtl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is obviously dumping you, unless you are available for sex. He may also be trying to keep his room open in case his family tosses him to the curb for being an idiot. Get rid of him, find someone new, and take care of your new house. Don't depend on anyone to help you take care of it. If you do, you may just lose it.
2007-09-05 11:20:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The man is simply not ready for responsibilities. Maybe he's trying to get out of it. Are you pressuring him? Some men are not responsible for anything and it is possible that maybe he is running from commitment issues.
2007-09-05 11:23:51 · answer #6 · answered by candyladyfor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is using you. He has no respect for you anymore and is using the security of your house to stay around. Get rid of him. Find someone who is going to treat you like the princess you really are!
2007-09-05 11:20:46 · answer #7 · answered by April K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go. Let him go. Let him go. You deserve someone that worships the ground you walk on and you can't find him wasting your time on some self-absorbed loser. Find your own self worth. What do you deserve? Ask yourself that. Anything less is unacceptable.
2007-09-05 11:22:50 · answer #8 · answered by Kristen J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what his problem is, but he keeps abandoning you or threatening to abandon you.
Do you really need to repeat this scenario over and over again?
Think about it, then do what's best for YOURSELF... sometimes we have to do things which are painful in order to get some sanity.
2007-09-05 11:19:36 · answer #9 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because u let him have a back bone...get a job pay for ur things see what rights u got ask lawyer quick
2007-09-05 11:20:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋