2007-09-05 03:57:59 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Since we split i have managed to socilize and be with other people but it dont feel the same we was together a year and its killing me, ive seen him on the street a few times and he looks at me and smiles and flirts, we are still friends although he cheated on me when we were together but all that got forgoton and all his friends tell me he want me back and he misses me. am i stupid???
2007-09-05 04:14:04 · update #1
Get out and have fun! Get a new hair do, buy some new clothes, and re-invent yourself as a more confident person. Enjoy time with your friends, let him get on with his new life and you get on with yours.
2007-09-05 04:02:14 · answer #1 · answered by Nickynackynoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First problem is you should have made a police report. This would of helped not harmed both of you. A police report is just a record of a past incident in case something were to happen again. For him it would of went on record as a possible drinking problem which later could help him get into rehab instead of going to jail. It would have been a benefit. Since you put the 10K down to help by the home, I am assuming you and he are both on the loan. If you want off the loan, he would have to qualify for the refinance on his own without you. If he wants to stay in the house, then he will have to do it on his own. If he were to get a renter to help him with the payment he would still have to qualify for the loan himself. If you were to stay on the note, you would be financially responsible whether you live there or not,want the house or not,etc. You will not get the down payment back unless you decide to take your ex-boyfriend to court. If you were to refiance you would still be on the loan which is what you don't want as you stated above. Now that is only as far as the mortgage........How was the Title taken? The Title and Loan are two different legal and binding documents and do not go hand in hand. You both could be on the loan, you both could be on title, but just because you are both on the loan does not mean that either of you could sell the house without the others permission.
2016-05-17 08:32:57 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there and this wont help you at all but the only way I found I could move on was to have no contact what so ever and it wasnt until I met someone else that I fully moved on. Thats not to say you should actively go out and find someone else but go out and do the things that make you - you - the things you enjoy. Enjoy being single for a bit and find yourself again. Then you'll meet someone else and think my god why did I waste so much time pining for someone so silly. Take what you've learnt from the relationship into the next.
2007-09-05 04:04:50 · answer #3 · answered by Blue80 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It takes time - and determination.
Involve yourself in something more important than he was.
Go to school - get better training = better job = more money.
Join a group that shares your interests - art, music, outdoors etc.
Accepting the fact that he's history. He wanted someone else and that's all there is to it.
No none of this will ease all the pain all at once forever - but with time - and the right attitude - you'll get over it. And later on when he's proven that he's not the shining knight you thought he was - you'll be glad he left.
2007-09-05 04:08:02 · answer #4 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A threesome usually works -- I'm joking - see you smirked a little - nearly there.
Just move on and find someone else - look at it another way - he couldn't have thought that much of you to give up so quickly and jump back into the bed of an ex - you are better off without him - move on with head held high
ADDED: In response to your added comments - don't be taken in - once a cheat always a cheat - he now realises that the grass wasn't greener on the other side - his loss - take him back if you want but be warned - he will cheat again
2007-09-05 04:03:11 · answer #5 · answered by jamand 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
aww hunni i know its always soo hard... And u think its easy for me 2 say that, but its not.. i feel absolutely the same.. Anyway try 2 focus on something else.. find a hobby, hang out more with your friends.. And find some1 new... Im sure u will meet a guy who will make you 4get him! :) Just dont stay alone even on a minute lol ur mind should always be busy! Or u will start thinking about him! Good luck :):)
2007-09-05 04:04:50 · answer #6 · answered by Nina 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get rid of the baggage and move on.
Enjoy being foot loose and fancy free wonderful feeling until Mr right comes along then the pains start all over again.
2007-09-05 04:04:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello lisa i dont advise getting drunk i think when were sad and drink it makes us worse i agree to pamper yourself totally its all easier said than done sometimes when im so sad i dont want anyone round me i just like some time alone to think and even cry my best friend commited suicide a few years ago i thought id never recover i didnt want to be alive but im still here and i still cry but i cope and it is true time is a healer only we dont see or feel it at the time you will be ok lisa i know for sure xx
2007-09-05 04:10:31 · answer #8 · answered by kitty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best way to get over someone is to move onto someone else. Start dating socially, nothing too serious, and when you least expect it you're going to find someone just as wonderful if not more than your ex. Trust me, it'll work out fine.
2007-09-05 04:03:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bonjour madam
Yes, dont go back, just keep bussy, and occupu your brain, someone once cheated on me, i just occupied myself with life, and took up new hobbies, sports, and freinds etc
good luck
aurevoir
2007-09-05 06:21:19 · answer #10 · answered by jam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋