before my dad death I was in a very bad situation because I lost my job and my love betrayed me and because of some problems I couldn't register for MS degree.I got a job and then after 40 days working for them they told me sorry. they had some financial problem so couldn't extend the contract...everything was terrible that time...I felt like a big looser.meanwhile my dad was sick and old. but I was very mad and unkind. I was so nervous and desperate and during the last years of his life we just had fights...BUT I DO LOVE HIM...he was the best father.he did whatever he could to raise me and send me to university. I was the only kid so when he was sick I was in charge of life and so I felt my life is ruined.now its two years that he has passed away while I even regret that he died caz of heart stoke but when he told me he has pain(like so many times) I didn't take it serious and when I came back he was dead.what can I do to tell him I love him?know so late but I can't forgive myself
2007-09-05 03:48:15 · 3 answers · asked by negin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hi hon... i'm sure your father knows how you feel right now.
DO FORGIVE YOURSELF... we aren't always perfect or on our best behavior. You were under stress, and although that may not be a good "excuse", it happened, can't change it.
Every last one of us makes mistakes... and we all have regrets.. Your father knew how you felt about him, and that you love him, even through the arguments, i'm sure. Everyone argues, as well -- so your family isn't different than many others.
I have found a couple of websites with information and articles on self-forgiveness. I hope they might help in some way.
take care of YOU.
2007-09-05 04:12:53 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad knows you loved him.He also knows your beating yourself up over this. You need to go talk to someone That can help you. We all feel guilty when we loose a parent I know I just lost my dad 8 months ago. Even though I spent every moment with him up to the last minute there are still things I agonize over. I always wish I had done something different but he's gone and I know he is still with me. Love your Dad now and be good to yourself.
2007-09-05 04:01:48 · answer #2 · answered by Cowgirl lost seahorse 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's time to release yourself from this guilt... write him a letter - tell him how you feel, good, awful, guilty, happy, sad & most of all that you love him... all of it! Take the letter to the cemetary & bury it. If he was cremated, burn the letter and as you do - say I'm sorry Dad, I love you so much & I know you love me too... And then let go!
2007-09-05 04:12:21 · answer #3 · answered by T. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋