I have raised this boy since he was 3. He is now 15 and he told me last night that I have made is life miserable for the last 5 yrs. Its because i keep catching him hiding his school work that he has flunked. when I ask him to show me is school work he says he has none to show me he hides all of is flunked papers. Should I stop and let his Dad handle this witch has never happened. Or continue to get him threw school and he will end up hating me. What to do?
2007-09-05 03:44:25 · 6 answers · asked by Cowgirl lost seahorse 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would never tell him he is just my stepson. I have 2 daughter that are 30 and 25 and I have told him that I'm raising him no different that I did them. His Mom is in the pic about 2 times a month. Just enough to cause trouble.
2007-09-05 04:09:04 · update #1
raised him since age 3... you ARE his mother - stepson or not. I don't care if he isn't biologically yours-- he IS yours.
keep doing what you are doing.......it doesn't matter if he is your stepson or not - that has nothing to do with it- you are doing the right thing... trust me... biological parents have the same problems..and they don't give up trying...he won't end up hating you - he will end up thanking you when he gets older and knows better.. right now he needs you..he needs you to be there..and keep pushing him.. wouldn't hurt to meet with his teachers - etc.. to see what more you could do to help him out in school.
he is your son. keep doing whats right for him, and get him through school
best of luck!
2007-09-05 03:57:36 · answer #1 · answered by ★★★ Katharine ♥♥♥♥ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know this kid is not going to pass and graduate with on-going failing grades. He only has 3 years to make up lost ground and get to where he can get into college.
Talk to his school counselors, tell them what you are seeing and ask for them to conduct some evaluations.
It could be an undiagnosed hearing or sight disorder. Maybe he is playing around with drugs.
If it is in one or two subjects, consider getting him into to tutoring like maybe a Kumon program. The expense is well worth it to get him past the current blocks and teach him study skills.
Whatever you do, don't let up... don't quit trying. The dad is probably not going to help if he hasn't yet.
2007-09-05 04:01:11 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
At first glance I would say you have to keep on him...if he wants to do anything that requires college, he has to make the grades.
But if his Dad isn't going to do anything and his Mom causes problems...maybe a little wake up call is in order...let him flunk. Summer school usually clears that problem up real quick.
I have one of those 15 year old boys...but I'm on him like white on rice...so he knows he has to pass his classes.
2007-09-05 04:41:27 · answer #3 · answered by Mikey ~ The Defender of Myrth 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You are probably the ONLY person in his life who actually cares... He knows this although he hasn't recognized it yet... Don't give up on him - he will get through this & he will be thanking you one day for never leaving him. BTW - he doesn't hate you - he is taking out his anger on the person he loves the most!!!
2007-09-05 04:15:07 · answer #4 · answered by T. 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you want the proof of when you told him to never do his homework. And if he cannot show you the proof then he needs to shut up and do his homework anyway.
2007-09-05 04:49:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is lucky to have a stepmom that cares so much about him and his future. Don't give up on him even if he starts hating you. He will thank you later.
2007-09-05 04:23:32 · answer #6 · answered by DoLz 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋