~parental trouble~ pleeazze help?

Question

well first im 15, im an only child for my dad and mom and i do everything im supposed to do. i make excellent grades and as a female i think i hold my self very well. my mother is my world. i respect her and she is the most important in my lfe. she would do anything for me and i couldn't ask for better.

now im turning sweet 16 and all i asked my father was to get me a phone (note its 300 dollars) i am very understanding but this is ridiculous because i never ask him 4 ANYTHING. and the minute i do he has to ask his wife or my grandmother. personally i think its sad and all he is looking at is that its a 300 dollar phone. its always something with my dad and his family and im tired of them trying to break me down. it hurts because i am his only child and my mother does everything and he acts like he cant do anything and that im just spoiled. (which im not u can ask anyone) soooo my question is am i wrong about this?, because im tired and its tearing me apart

Answer 1

Maybe there is no way for them to get a $300 phone...maybe you are asking to much. If they got you $100 phone...would the world end?
Having a phone is more than just keeping in touch it's a major resposibility..who did you think was going to pay for it? Dad? Kids are irresponsible when it comes to things they dont pay for.
Acting like a child because you don't get what you want strengthens their veiw on you.

Answer 2

First of all, I am sorry that your parents divorced. It cannot be easy to be a kid in the middle of that mess.
As a mom of an 17 year old boy....
I would say that $300 as a birthday present does sound a bit steep to me, but......... if you are a good kid making good grades I would love to reward that. However, there are times that even if I want to get something for my son, that I just cant afford it.
Here is another option, offer to come up with the $100 toward the phone if your dad will give you $200 of it. Then you could babysit and earn the money in no time at all. $200 is better than nothing, or getting something that you really dont want. Ask your Dad for money instead of a gift....that way at least you be closer to the amount you need. :o) Hope it helps! Good luck and Happy Birthday!

Answer 3

I don't know how hard your father has to work to make $300, and at 15, neither do you. I'm also assuming that he will be paying for not only the phone, but your service plan as well. Quite an investment so that you can gossip with friends. Try to remember that when your Dad was growing up, people used pay phones when they were away from home and they lived happily without the need to be able to immediately communicate every thought to their friends.

Answer 4

Hi well u sound like my daughter she is 16 almost 17 but she got her first phone at the age 14 but wasnt a expensive one . I tell u like I told her if u want a phone bad enough u take what I can afford cause money aint on no tree . The only reason she got a phone was so we as parents could keep up with her when we was at work or when she was out . But she seen that we wasnt going to buy it so she got a job and bought it herself . She realized that it took her time to get it and had to work hard for it but she apprecate it more that she payed for it and it wasnt giving to her . So yes u are askin for to much just get a phone for now one that he can afford then when u can work and get your own u will see why he said no . Kids theses days are handed things and dont know whats it like to get it own there own . Good luck . But try to understand where he is coming from and dont be mad about something like this .

Answer 5

What do you need a $300 phone for? I think your father's doing the right thing by not getting it for you. There's no need for a $300 phone when you can get one for $50 that does the same exact things. It's just a phone anyways, don't freak out over it. I got my first phone at 18 and that's only because it came free with my mom's plan. Trust me - you could have it a lot worse!

If you despretely need this one specific phone, get a job, save the money, and buy it yourself.

Answer 6

first of all, $300 is a good bit of money -- especially when you don't have it yourself! and apparently, you don't have three hundred dollars, or you'd have purchased the phone already.

parents need to discuss these things with each other, as well. so if your father wants to talk to your mom about the phone purchase, he has every right. it's HIS money, he earned it, and he should have the option whether to buy it or not. and then, there is the monthly bill, which is an additional expense to the family budget.

there are a lot of things to consider when getting a phone for our kids.

it's really GREAT you do well in school and are a good daughter in general.... you will probably get the phone in the long run.....

meanwhile, you aren't wrong or right... you just want the phone!

Answer 7

yes i do believe your wrong for feeling that way because, think of it this way if you had a child and they wanted a three hundred dollar phone and you didn't have that kind of money would you buy it for that kind of money. no you wouldn't because you didn't have the money. that is like being in your fathers shoes. now if he was bill gates or really rich then you can be upset. Why don't you consider a cheaper phone and then when you get a job save up for the phone you want. don't be mad at your father, its not right and besides I'm pretty sure he does want to get you anything you want and he probably feels bad inside.

Answer 8

well this is just my opinion so you can take it or leave it. its just a damn phone stick with that crap nokia thats already being used and get over it. the phone service is alot to pay any way. but the fact that the phone is 300 and that in a short matter of time it will only be worth 100 sucks. you can talk crap if it makes you feel better but your only gonna make your dad feel worse. im not sticking up for strangers im just saying 300 for a phone is alot. lots of these phones with all this crazy functionality were made with the business professional in mind they just dresed it up in a kid friendly package but why does a kid need to be able to go online with the phone or send emails kids text any way right?

Answer 9

for some people, $300 is a lot of money to spend on a gift; perhaps your father is not as well-off as you think.
i would not have dreamed of asking my parents for such an expensive gift when i was a teen. i still wouldn't. when i wanted a horse (the most expensive thing i wanted at that age), i got a job so i could buy it and pay for its care because i knew my parents were on a budget.
if $300 is chump change to your dad, then maybe there are other issues. it sounds like your father is married to a woman other than your mother--it's fairly "normal" in a lot of marital relationships for one spouse to check with the other spouse before spending big amounts of money.

Answer 10

Yes, you are 15, you do not need a $300 phone. If you want a phone that costs that much, you need to get a job and pay for it yourself.