my boyfiend have been together may was ayear.i have only had 4 orgasims with and the last one was this past feb.
we have talked about it he is aware that he is not satisfing me and the sex gets really good but he isnt into peforming oral sex and i cant seem to keep him focused on my pleasure areas.sometimes i get mad because he never comes back the second day to please me after a couple days i just take care of it myself.its just not the same and it often makes me sad i wonder if i will ever be able to have that feeling again that you get when you are in love and the emotional satisfaction you get when you are satisfied sexually.
cheating is not an option.
other than this issue.he is a very good man and i know that he cares for me intensly.
he is very sweet and attentive.just not into my body.or something. it is really stating to hurt my selfesteem.
2007-09-05 03:13:26 · 17 answers · asked by denette s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he gets a ******** everytime we have sex.and he says that i hurt him when i am on top he said he never had a woman grind so hard.he often climaxes before me and i loose intrest after that. i have asked about using toys he was offended.masterbation its the only way i get my release.
2007-09-05 03:30:26 · update #1
Hi babe. I feel for you 'cause I focus more on my woman's pleasure during sex than anything. A true lover does this and you shouldn't have to write in for this. Anyway, I wanna help.Lie on your stomach and have your man enter you
from behind. While he's doing his thing, stroke your clit like you do when you're masturbating and this should help you. Or, you can get a french tickler from the adult store and have him wear it on his wang while you're doing it. Get one that will stimulate your clit, anus or both. They also have creams that can heighten your sensitivity down there and on your nipples. You can also try some Ben Wa balls. These are inserted into your love canal and can be left in during sex. Try these things out or look around while you're at the adult bookstore for something you'd prefer if these suggestions don't hit the mark for you. Good luck babe,
askaman
PS. I've never found a better meal, than one eaten at the Y.
2007-09-05 03:37:11 · answer #1 · answered by www.askaman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you got yourself a cave man.It is sad that some men don't realize that a womans body is a well oiled machine and that you can enjoy the ride if you grease it right. In the future if a man refuses to go down town for a lollipop don't let his stick near you.
2007-09-05 03:26:51 · answer #2 · answered by miraclehand2020 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not doing every thing he can possibly do to pleasure you?
Are you doing every thing you possibly can to pleasure him??
If you want oral sex, you must be prepared to offer it as well. Take the pressure Off and try to have fun together. It doesn't have to be a race, and you need to make him understand that.
Perhaps you can take care of his needs, and then refocus him on yours.
If that doesn't work (and it won't--at least not right away) then I suggest you get used to it. 99% of all of us men are clueless in bed. We require explicit instructions--partly because no two women seem to want to be taken care of the same way.
2007-09-05 03:20:04 · answer #3 · answered by chocolahoma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Masturbation is the first place to start. You have to know what feels good for you, so that you can let your partner know what feels good when he does it. So experiment a bit by yourself. It takes time and practice to know what works for you. Also RELAX. Don't think about anything else except the feeling. If you feel your mind wandering, just bring it back. I never had an orgasm until I reached my twenties, and my current partner.
2016-05-17 08:13:54 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would brig a toy into the bedroom I had the same problem for a long time but my fiance was always willing to try until he succeded but yeah a toy will ensure that it happens and it will probably be a turn on for him too.
2007-09-05 03:19:58 · answer #5 · answered by freckleface 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good way to ensure you get an orgasm is to ride on top. You hit your spot better, plus you're in control.
It's really wierd that he doesn't like oral but it is what it is. Try being on top one more time but this time have him let you know when it hurts. Communication is key here. He can learn how to please you by watching your movements and you can learn how to please yourself without hurting him.
If at all possible, try to get him into oral sex. Maybe if you do him first let him know you'll continue if he does you. Incentive!!
2007-09-05 03:16:24 · answer #6 · answered by sexynsmartxoxo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound decent. haha. u can try masturbating yourself, or, like wad sexynsmartxoxo said, ride on top of him when having intercourse. It will enhance orgasm. By the way, ur " orgasims" is wrong spelling. That will 'massage' ur g-spot. you may try to lure him down there and do some tongue exercise with the most sensitive part, clitoris.
2007-09-05 03:20:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not doing the job you need done during sex, then you need to take over every once and a while. Tell him what you want and that you want it NOW!
2007-09-05 03:16:47 · answer #8 · answered by LSU_Tiger23 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he isn't satisfying you now and you've only been together for a year?! I don't think he'll ever do so. well....maybe, but it won't last long. lol Either get used to it, or leave him and find someone that can give you what you need.....sexually.
2007-09-05 03:22:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what makes you feel good , if you have to show him . Some guys just dont understand a womans body
2007-09-05 03:18:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋