My boyfriend has a coworker that keeps flirting with him. She does it right in front of me when I come to his job with lunch. He ignores her and would never do anything but I know to him its flattering. To me, enough is enough, its getting annoying. When I bring him lunch she will purposely come over and stand there trying to chit chat with him. I am a somewhat jealous person but only when there is cause to be. We've been together 5 years have lived together 4 of those years so this is a very long term realationship. I feel what she is doing is disrespectful. He tells me not to worry about it that he's with me we have a life together and she is nothing but a coworker. But, I still feel her doing it right in front of me is disrespectful and it drives me crazy. What is everyone elses thoughts.
2007-09-05 03:10:50 · 9 answers · asked by grrngirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
At least he has someone to go to when you make him mad!!! A guys point of view. Don't let your guard down.....
show me the thumbs down vvvvvvvvvvvv
2007-09-05 03:21:29 · answer #1 · answered by IOWA HAWKEYES 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
EDIT: Hi, Yahoo! did not let me post my whole answer because it was too long. I made a blog to be able to give you the whole answer. Please consider following the link provided below in the SOURCE box to read the whole answer. Thanks! :-) Hi there! 1--- Just so you know ahead, i am going to try and hit points in the same order you wrote them... First, the whole thing about the past crush is really unnerving. Danger zone. 2--- The way she treats you is completely unreasonable. You definitely are making the best of choices by avoiding her friendship (haha, right, she doesn't sound like much of a friend anyway, more of an enemy). Your use of the word 'patronizing' really hit this home for me to understand your situation. 3--- Not a threat, eh? Anyone stealing time with your mate is already out of place and both are disrespecting you if you think about it. You do not seem all that concerned about him or his loyalty. It hardly sounds like love. I am just being honest about my observations here, so please do not be offended, just consider my words, think on them. 4--- You seem to be okay with them flirting, but i must ask you to consider something... Should not it be you and he who are engaging in these types of things? Who is she to steal his attention and affections from you? Do you not deserve better than this? Maybe you expect little for yourself because you have been taught that this is normal, and therefore acceptable. I urge you to reconsider these things. You surely have greater value than this and deserve the utmost honor and respect from a man who will cherish you and not allow any room for distraction such as this. 5--- The whole contacting you through him, etc. thing is preposterous behavior, even on his part. It is absurd that he does not even seem to recognize that he, himself is patronizing you by allowing that to happen, furthermore, participating in it. Remember, you owe this other person nothing whatsoever. In fact, she owes you for what she has stolen away. ** So, you defined your actual question here, i will offer what i can in response to it specifically (in the next few points) ** MESSAGE NOT FINISHED! PLEASE GO TO THE FOLLOWING LINK IN THE SOURCE TO READ THE WHOLE ANSWER:
2016-04-03 04:40:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be a little mad too, but your boyfriend is right. Nothing is going to come of her flirting, and you should trust what your boyfriend tells you.
What she is doing is disrespectful, but she's doing it to make you mad, so by ignoring her, and what she's doing, you'll be the better person. Just feel sorry for her, and realize that people like that have issues we don't know about, and hope she overcomes whatever issues she has.
I know it's difficult, but I would just try to ignore her.
2007-09-05 03:22:30 · answer #3 · answered by CW1967 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Well, if she is doing it on purpose - what would be the best response from you? Smile- be happy - act not bothered - be not exactly clingy to your guy- but, show that you are happy together.
right now you are sitting there bothered - she can tell this - of course she is going to keep doing it if she is doing it to get to you.. because it is!!!
If you start smiling - acting not bothered - pretty soon it will get old to her - and she will quit.
of course when you are alone - you can tell your boyfriend that it does bother you - but, when you are around her - act happy- and not bothered....
and, yes, it is disrespectful- and bothersome.
2007-09-05 03:20:25 · answer #4 · answered by ★★★ Katharine ♥♥♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
You are letting her control your emotions, and i'm sure she's enjoying it... some people like to torment others, and she's found a way to "push your buttons".
Why bother with her? What is the use? Do you really need the stress and anxiety it causes you?
I didn't think so.
gather your dignity, act like a lady and ignore her... the guy is with you, and that's where he intends to stay......
you have bigger fish to fry.
2007-09-05 03:27:03 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
You should be proud of your man and how this other woman wants him. Trust me, it is much better to be with someone who is coveted by others than someone who no one else wants. That means he's a good catch, and you should be loving every minute he's with you.
2007-09-05 03:16:54 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. Fannerman 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Next time she comes over to talk to him while your there, say excuse me, but Can we have some privacy please. Don't feel intimadated by her, stand up for your self.
2007-09-05 03:19:04 · answer #7 · answered by shorte716 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It is annoying. Just confront her about, theres nothing else you can do.
2007-09-05 03:17:04 · answer #8 · answered by the bear 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Smack That B&^%$. That should teach her to not be disrespectful.
2007-09-05 03:16:48 · answer #9 · answered by tootsiebrownie 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋