What do you think of the etiquette of this:
My friend is planning on getting married in 2009.
We live in England, and wants to marry in Jamaica?
She is telling us to save up to come over. She has asked me to play an important role in the wedding.
She is marrying the guy that gave her a son, even though he emmigrated to another country when she was pregnant!
Should the guests have to find money for the ticket to go to her wedding?
2007-09-05 02:44:22 · 15 answers · asked by Rebz 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
By the way, the guy she is marrying, she has never lived with!
2007-09-05 02:46:07 · update #1
If you want to go, yes you should pay. You can't expect her and her fiance to pay for the whole wedding plus everyones tickets who are going. That's one of the things about getting married abroad.. she will be prepared that some people just won't be able to go! She has given plenty of notice to people to start saving up though!
If you have a problem with the man she is marrying, and it's a genuine concern then you need to tell her as soon as possible. She will either listen to you and be glad that you raised your concerns or she won't and she'll marry him anyway... At least you will have a clear conscience!
2007-09-05 02:49:02 · answer #1 · answered by Lauren 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Are they registered any where? It would say so in the invitation. If you hate the idea of walking around a store with a list,just get them a gift card to that store. If the wedding is not that far away then all the expensive items are probably the ones left in there registry,people tend to buy the cheapest items on the couples list,so a gift card might be the best way to go. If they are not registered any where,a gift card is still the best way to go.Get them a Visa gift card,you can ususally buy them at a bank,call around and find out who has them and if there is a charge for the card itself..its usually just a few bucks.You can put any amount of money on the card,and it's just like a credit card,so they can use it any where that takes credit cards,even online.
2016-04-03 04:39:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is coming from someone who is familiar with international marriages, not only myself but many of my friends. Anyone who plans to have their wedding in another country, or trying to get two families from different countries together, does not expect anyone to come. Rather, they are grateful if anyone is able to make the trip.
She should not assume you are able to come. Have you agreed to be in her wedding? If so, you have silently agreed to buy a plane ticket. If you cannot afford it or dont want to, now is a good time to talk to her about it. If she really wants you there, she can pay for your ticket herself. Talk to her.
2007-09-05 03:19:32 · answer #3 · answered by fizzy stuff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this friend close to you?
If she is, then I would go if you have the money to fly over. Its a tough thing to do this when you have a gut feeling there is a possability the marriage might not work out. But, then again, who are you to know? Maybe it will work out. People need to make their own mistakes. If they will not listen to you, then there is no point in breaking up a friendship. Just be there for them.
If it is really bothering you, then maybe you need to talk to your friend regarding it. Especially if they are asking you to be in their wedding.
2007-09-05 02:56:00 · answer #4 · answered by Hossuc 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes the guests should fund the ticket money!
If I want to go to my friends' weddings I don't put a claim in for expenses!
Don't go if you don't want to pay the travel fare!
2007-09-05 02:58:02 · answer #5 · answered by *Sparki* 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As other answerers have said, yes, with destination weddings, the guests pay their own way to attend.
2007-09-05 03:12:39 · answer #6 · answered by sylvia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are her friend and she has asked you to be a part of the wedding you either do it or not. If you do then yes you are obligated to save up and pay for it. She has given you well over a year to save. If you don't like the guy then tell her or stop whinning about it. Either you are her friend or not!
2007-09-05 02:48:50 · answer #7 · answered by jayydoggs 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
How good a friend are you?
When was the last time YOU offered HER a plane ticket to Jamaica?
Makes you think doesn't it.
2007-09-05 03:00:32 · answer #8 · answered by the_keys78 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not sure, it would cost her a lot of cash to pay for everyone's tickets
A good friend would offer to get there themselves and to respect her decisions, she's given you plenty of notice to save and at the end of the day I'm sure she wont hold it against you if you dont attend because you cant afford it or don't have the ability to save the cash required.
hope this hepls.
2007-09-05 02:50:56 · answer #9 · answered by threecraws 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it's a destination wedding the guest have to pay for their trip.
2007-09-05 02:49:01 · answer #10 · answered by tootsiebrownie 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋