My little brother used to be my best friend; I would take him with me everywhere. He is now 13 and has been acting worse and worse by the day. He never wants to go with me places, he disrespects me in front of my friends, and he yells at me, he is worse with my parents. I don’t know what I can do to turn this boy around, because I don’t want him to grow up to be a spoiled, obnoxious, intolerable, immature young boy. He goes to high school next year and I want him to be respectful, and not the type that is easily influenced by others. Please advise; thank you so much.
2007-09-05 02:37:37 · 13 answers · asked by R.F. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
welll jsut be honest with your brother when you can find a quiet moment. hes just going thorugh adolesence. its normal its the raging hormones. thats all. jsut make sure he doesnt get into too much trouble. let him know you care and that your there for him. that he can always go talk to you. i personally have no siblings and i always wish i ahd an older brother to look out for me. so jsut be the older sibling who cares. not the controling older sibling who everyone hates. maybe he needs some time away from you. i know its going to hurt after youve been so attatched but jsut let him know your still there if he needs you.
and remember.
BE honest, always
i hope this helped.
2007-09-05 02:44:48 · answer #1 · answered by sarah t 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of this is hormonal. Stuff is kicking in and he is not comfortable in his body, and he is not getting much sleep. That is why middle school is so gross and often violent... all these kids going through the pubies.
Your brother is going to blow up to get attention and that is normal for all kid brothers. He will naturally act-out to get his way. The only thing you can do is tell him, "Look, if you are going to act that way, I don't care to put up with you! I will only be around you if you behave and be nice." Then walk away... go to your room or go for a walk around the block to blow off the stress. If you refuse to get baited into his game, he will eventually get the idea.
A walk around the block is generally a good idea in any pressure-cooker situation.
Your parents need to enforce their dominion over this pubie pit-bull before he gets into severe trouble. If he disrespects them, they need to beat that behavior out of him.
Nutritionally, I would suggest only having organic dairy and meats around the house. The growth hormones they are pickling the animals with these days can't be helping the kids any. That's why we have 6-8 year old girls getting their periods.
2007-09-05 03:09:04 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like little bro is growing (I won't say "up")...You didn't say how much older you are...And I'll gather that most of your friends are girls...I think that bro is wanting to hang with guys - do guy stuff, you know, look at girls...He wants to start talking about your specie, not be with you (yet)...This is something he will never admit to cuz he's still a kid...Try backing off from him, give him some space...You sound like a terrific sis - the kind any guy would be proud to call family...I think he'll be ok...Go on and do your thing and watch the lad grow up.
All the best.
2007-09-05 02:56:00 · answer #3 · answered by thud.fan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to your parents to CHECK his behavior.. it's not your responsibility to make sure he acts appropriately.
Perhaps he has anger issues, maybe it's hormones, or perhaps he's feeling like an adult one minute and a little kid the next? Being 13 has its challenges.
If you are worried over his behaviors, have a private talk (without him knowing at all) with your parents.
Take care of YOU.
2007-09-05 02:42:32 · answer #4 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking to him? Invite him for a dinner, or movie maybe. Then talk to him heart to heart. Explain to him your reasons, and once he'll know you are doing it for his own good, he'll open up. Ensure him the privacy of your talking so he can confide everything without fearing of being scolded. This age usually is difficult to handle. Be patient. Nothing to lose when you pray for him. I believe prayer works.
2007-09-05 02:50:18 · answer #5 · answered by Jerduen, Q and Xi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smack him in the mouth. That will teach him to disrespect you.
He could be using drugs, such as methamphetamines or marijuana.
You should probably alert the authorities or possibly look to get him into rehab ASAP.
2007-09-05 02:53:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
for starters he's a boy.....second... he just turned 13.........
my brother's almost 18 and he still acts that way!! give him time. he's trying to figure out where he belongs... and you trying to help him won't help the matter..... but maybe you an steal away a moment for you guys to talk and just tell him how you feel....trust me, he's gonna act like he doesn't care at first.
he's you're brother.....he loves you!! i know that's sounds like weird, but that's how God designed family!! i hope everything works out for you guys!! <3
2007-09-05 02:46:06 · answer #7 · answered by meme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is going through puberty. He needs firm but loving guidance now. You might also want to quietly check in to who his friends are and try to make certain that drugs are not involved.
2007-09-05 02:43:40 · answer #8 · answered by 55 and trying 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You all choose counseling and a DNA try. sure, she will circulate to courtroom and alter his call for roughly $600-1000, yet except you get a DNA try, legally his dad is your dad. changing a attractiveness proves not something.
2016-11-14 06:16:33 · answer #9 · answered by newnum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its very dangerous for u and ur family this is not good habbits ,i think ur brother have no response from any where u find that thing that y he do all his then u contact me i ll telll u don.t worry
with best wishes
2007-09-05 02:43:08 · answer #10 · answered by raja a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋