What would you do if your daughter told you that she used to cut herself?

Question

As a teenager living in your house, but has since stopped.

Answer 1

I have three kids, but my daughter is only 8. If she did come to me as a teenager and told me this, I would be so grateful that she got the courage together to open up like that. A secret that big would be hard to reveal, but I would be proud of her feeling like she could tell me. Then I would emphasize that there's nothing she could tell me EVER That would make me stop loving her, or be so angry that I wouldn't listen and that I'm always here for her. Then, I think we could go out for a Coke and talk about why she thinks she came to the point where cutting was the answer for her. Maybe we'd come up with some healthier ways of getting angry, since I think that's what it's about. Being a teenager is harder than most parents remember, I think (I have 2). If you are about to tell your mom this, don't be afraid! Think about how much closer you'll be afterwards, and how good it will be for your relationship for her to know even the secret, sad part of yourself. Good luck...she'll probably be more accepting than you think! :-)

Answer 2

people who self-harm can have a variety of issues, including depression, anxiety, feeling they don't belong, past bad experiences they haven't dealt with. you can look up SELF-HARM or SELF-INJURY on the internet for more information, hon.

i used to self harm when i was young also. i was abused as a child and this was a way to relief... sounds odd but true. since, i'm grown and so are my kids...

the best thing i did with my kids was to remind them i was there to listen and be supportive. if i felt they were having problems, we'd talk... i'd gently remind them that i was there to help and to listen.

if they needed to see a doctor or therapist, that was ok with me.... sometimes kids need someone to talk with... it can be helpful when the person is open to therapy.

you didnt mention your daughter's age or how long ago she was cutting. sometimes this behavior comes and goes in phases. i think researching the subject might be helpful for you as well as your daughter.

take care, and i wish you all the best.

Answer 3

thank God and be grateful that she has stopped. be there for her and let her know that she never has to go through anything alone that you are there to listen, not judge, and between the two of you, you'll be able to work through anything. she needs your support, love and guidance. if she should revert back to cutting, i'd definitely take her to see a doctor or counselor because then she will need more than your help. i wish her well, and, you as her mom, the same. good luck to you both.

Answer 4

i used to cut myself to and it was hard to stop. just support her and tell her she canever do that to herself again. some people dont know how else to relieve then anger and hurt other then hurting themself. just support her as much as you can to help her get tho this. cutting is as addictive as drugs and is even harder to stop but the erge to hurt yourself will always be there and its a battle everyday you go without doing it.

Answer 5

Please listen to me am 16 and I cut if she said she stopped then that's good. Talk to her about it ask her y DO NOT get mad at her that only makes then worse. Don't go weird on her talk to her about it and if u don't believe she stopped then ask to c her arms.

Answer 6

Yea Be grateful that she did stop!!! because cutting is harsh, Now just be there for her more often

Answer 7

"I always did say you took after your crazy *** dad's side of the family. You keep that **** up and you'll end up like them."

Answer 8

I'd be happy she ain't doing it no more.