we used to paly a song game on orkut, we started talking on phone after that , we met once and he proposed me. I like him but cant just get into this relation as i cnt lie to my parents and secondly and then i have all this cat stuff coming up....
I dont know what to do
HELP ME
2007-09-05 00:09:02 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
this guy havent proposed me for marrige i am jus 19
this is for a relation i asked him to wait for i year , but he said he cannot control his feelings for one year
2007-09-05 00:18:40 · update #1
He is for another relationship........... I think you are not mentally fit to do all those things right now. ok? Concentrate on other things. Enjoy life, not in this means........ Life has many things to offer to you........ Dont waste ur time and energy into this damn works....... Enjoy your life dear..... Be truthful to your parents. Maintain friendship with him........
2007-09-05 00:40:10 · answer #1 · answered by Shinoj Kumar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK couple of things
1) You have met this man once - you do not know him and he doesn't know you in real life so how can he even possibly think of proposing as you don't even know each other! Big mistake!
2) You can't lie to your parents? If you are old enough to be in a relationship with this person (how old are you and how old is he?) there shouldn't be a problem. Because you need to lie you obviously feel guilt about the whole situation - a relationship you feel guilty about is not a good thing.
3) If you are using vague excuses life "cat stuff" what does he want you to do, Run Away? This isn't a healthy relationship to be in because he is sending all the wrong signals and you are guilty and avoiding the subject with "cat stuff".
So all in all, tell him the truth if you can't do it in person or on the phone send an email. If he can't respect your choices and continues, I hate to say it but talk to your parents because this guy could be some sort of sexual predator. I was raped by a b/f when I was 15 - all because I didn't trust my instincts or want to be... mean to the guy I liked.
All the best.
2007-09-05 07:23:32 · answer #2 · answered by Rie_C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
D/CHHAVI
U already have the answer. u hv confessed that u dont want to get into this relationship; u dont want to lie to ur parents; cat stuff coming up and finally u dont know what to do. Since no factor is favoring for you to take the plunge--just continue playing the songs. Now from my side: -- from the way he proposed-- he must also be give or take 22; from the way u are reacting-- it is typical the school girl entering into boys world and getting those womanly feelings-- just put it on hold and take my advice--that when u pick the guy go for the marriage--till such time play the song game and keep all under control and fun. best wishes for ur cat-- and close this topic with a quick decision to get out of this marriage itch to the person u met for one time-- u hv age and u wl meet better ones in the following years.
2007-09-05 14:34:22 · answer #3 · answered by TROUBLESHOOTERKILLROY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Chavvi
well i'm in a similar sort of situation u. even i met a guy on orkut...then met him person once...and now we chat on the phone pretty much every day...only because i've been very busy with studies n hence haven't been able to meet him in person.
and similar to you...even my parents dont know about all this.
what exactly do mean by the "cat stuff" i presume its releven to studies is it??
well....in my opinion...i reckon...if u feel that you are able to trust him...then just be friends with him for now...and try to get to know him a little better....before jumping into a relationship. you need to take precautions since you have met this guy online.
can i ask how long have u known him for?
Edit: well chavvi...it really seems like you are not ready for this. you are only 19...and there are more important things or you to focus on at this point in your life (such as studies and building a carreer). I would suggest that you kindly tell him that you are not ready for marriage...and you have to sort out your priorities first. It is not worth ruining your education.
2007-09-05 07:17:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol....immediate decisions always create problems...take time n think . M going to be a 20 and m ve still holding my emotions n feelings , n vent proposed any gal till yet . Its just depend on u whether u want to get in this relationship or not , nobody can compel u . At this age evry1 has curiosity to ve a bf/ gf on the same hand they ve fear in mind as they wont hide their relationships to their parents . The way in which u r thinking is absolutely right . If u r not ready to get involved ,just simply offer him as friend . And if u really like him and dont want to let him go far from u then u ve no alternate to accept his proposal. The choice is urs...simple. if u like him say yes to him, if want to know more abt him offer him as a friend. And what does it mean...after 1 year ? after 1 yr , u ll tell everything abt ur relationship to ur parents ? if no, then its better to say him yes now. Afterall u also like him .
2007-09-05 08:08:30 · answer #5 · answered by Rishabh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had relationships with men on the internet also. One even proposed to me in a wav file. I wasn't too sure what to do being that he was on the other side of the world. What I have found is that you can't fall in love with someone you don't know and haven't met yet. Of course your parents aren't going to be happy because it's not the ideal situation. Sometimes people tell you what you want to hear to make themselves look good. Tell him that you're not ready to take that step, it's way too soon. You have priorities in your life right now and they need to come first. Remember one thing, never listen to your heart or your head, listen to your gut, it can never steer you wrong. Whatever you decide to do, make sure it's safe and if something doesn't feel right, it's generally not. Hugs!
2007-09-05 07:17:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him u need time but 1 year is too much no body will wait for u so much get real and this time meet him as much as u can and go out together and one very important thing introduce him to ur girl friend who are as good looking as u and go out with them regularly and check if he flirts with her too so u can come to know does he seriously like u or is it for pleasure only. and if he does just slowly and steadily start making a distance wid him cut down on ur telephone conversations and then just forget him.
and if he is nice enough not to flirt wid ur friends too jut go for him girl coz they dont make such men anymore.
and make it clear to him that u r not involving urself in any sex or anything jus draw ur line and dont loose ur control.
life is not that difficult after all
go ahead and enjoy
as for ur parents u can't tell thenm the truth if u have to have a boyfriend coz they will never accept it.
u have to hide it from them and by the time u r maritable age and u really fall in love wid each other jus tell ur parents dat u r in love and go for it
all the best girl...!!!
im sure this can help u
2007-09-05 08:16:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It looks like you already know your answer. You are not ready to marry this guy, so do not. You should be honest with him and let them know that you are not ready to marry him at this time in your life. Let him know you will like to take things slow and get to know him a little more, while you work out your own issues. You may find he is not someone you want to marry afterall, or he could turn out to be amazing. I think you need time to clear decision. Be honest and talk to him. If you are not that comfortable with him that you can not sit down and talk about this, that is a clear sign you guys are not ready to be married to each other yet. One of the number one factors in a marriage is communication.
2007-09-05 07:15:01 · answer #8 · answered by Justme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously ure not ready for a relationship, just share with him ure issues and concerns about it and stay close friends for now.
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2007-09-05 07:16:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not reliable, very dangerous & used internet for this purpose. Stop having any contact with him. After going through that dirty relation, he will stop contacting you himself & search another prey with different profile. He is emotionally blackmailing you. Tell himthat u have taken printout of his message , his telephones to you are being tapped & if he pressurises , threaten him that you will contact police. Your parents are your best friends & best wishers. Don't cheat them. This matter is a lesson for you for future.
2007-09-05 08:03:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋