Ok so after 6 months no contact with ex gf that left for another guy she contacted me and we met the other night. It was a really emotional meeting and she said how she realised that she has made a really big mistake and that she doesn't want to be with the guy that shes with and shes been lying to herself for the whole time that they have been together, shes thought about me everyday and has really missed me, but she doesnt see how we can be together because everyone would be so anti it after what she put me through, we had a really great time together and we left it that we would leave it to fate if we are supposed to be together we will be.
I have told her how i still love her and she wasnt short of saying the same, she said that she feel trapped in her thing with the guy she left me for and she'll never love him and that they act more as friends than anything, they constantly argue and never do anything together, also after talking about it it turns out that he lied to her
2007-09-04 22:15:19 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and to me in order to get me out the way and manipulated his way in there with her in the first place.
I really dont know what to do now? although she wont say it we still love each other. I have left the ball in her court and i've decided to only talk if she makes the first move, after all shes the one that should be crawling to me, its torture not being able to be with her. i'm not really sure how to play this one for the best, i love her still and i'd like to see a happy ending one day, i'm thinking stay off her case and there realtionship sounds as if its been doomed since day one anyway.? Any constructive advice would be welcomed.
Thanks
2007-09-04 22:19:09 · update #1
I'd be very careful, she could be out to manipulate you, and because you love her you're easily manipulated. You put yourself on the line for this woman once and she hurt you very badly, if you let her do this a second time, well ....
2007-09-04 22:24:09 · answer #1 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actions speak louder than words. She needs to 1) leave the boyfriend, 2) demonstrate that she can have a relationship with you that does not involve lying 3) prove that she will not pursue other opportunities/people should they arise, and 4) demonstrate some emotional stability and maturity.
Do not go bounding back into each others arms. Don't see her until she is rid of the ex. Then, just date like normal people... no moving in together or any of that... just date. Time will answer the other issues.
2007-09-05 05:28:02 · answer #2 · answered by pattitutde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there, reading your prob I think that this girl is a manipulator. Think about this, she left you for this guy so I would say that she had such meetings with him about you and when he fell for her lines she left you. Now she's not happy with him so she is drip feeding you HER problems for you to sort out, you will naturally ask "everyone" how they feel and even if they do object if they are your friends they will support you whatever you do therefore paving the way for her to come back into your life. If this girl had any respect for you, never mind herself then if she was unhappy with this guy she should leave him for that reason and not expect you to be at her beck and call. She was not happy with you - is not happy without you means SHE is not a happy person. Her happiness depends not on her but who she is with. If she left you once for whatever reason then those reasons are still there and I would walk away as you will be hurt again...
2007-09-05 06:23:43 · answer #3 · answered by patlynn2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants to be with you. You want to be with her. And you're asking what to do?
Tell her you'll get back with her, if she cuts it off with him clean and agrees to give "us" a chance. Otherwise, no deal.
If you wait for life to fall into your lap, you'll end up as the 40-year-old virgin. If you want something to happen, make it happen.
Most importantly, NEVER let one woman be the focus of your romantic life (unless you have a firm commitment). Keep your options open and you'll have LOTS of options. Focus on finding the woman who is "the one" and you'll be left alone.
2007-09-05 05:32:56 · answer #4 · answered by Nels N 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, get back with her and then use her for a bit like she used you. End it all by telling her you forgot how listless sex was and you thank her for the reminder that you have been thankful for her disgusting little morals and lack of faith in you because you'd rather do a wet sponge.
2007-09-05 05:25:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who says she wont go and do it again. You are not a dogs left overs find someone else who you can trust.
2007-09-05 05:27:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a difficult one chicks......alot for u to think about. The question is are u willing to put yourself out there for more heartache??
Something to think about, Fool me once, shame on u. Fool me twice, shame on me...................Good luck x x
2007-09-05 06:03:33 · answer #7 · answered by Dolly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only you know how you feel mate but be careful if she s done this to you once she may do it again my advice would be to move on an forget her but its your call
2007-09-05 05:36:02 · answer #8 · answered by Bogan Outlaw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never go back
2007-09-05 05:27:38 · answer #9 · answered by tezz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋