My father is a minister, and me and my fiance have been talking of having him doing the ceremony, but I also want my dad to walk me down the isle. How could I make that work? Especially at the part of "giving the bride away". I've thought of having my older brother walk me down instead, but I think my dad would like to do both. Any suggestions !!!!
2007-09-04 19:59:18 · 30 answers · asked by bethv_84 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I would have your dad stand at the front as minister with the groom & groomsmen while the bridesmaids process down the aisle. Then I would have you and your mother enter from the back and your dad leave his place and meet you about halfway up the aisle. At this point, he will turn so that both your parents can continue forward.
Then he can skip the "Who gives this woman?" and "Her mother and I do" bit and just address the groom with something like:
"Joe, we know you will love and care for our daughter -- welcome to the family!" (or whatever he feels would be appropriate to say).
2007-09-05 05:48:26 · answer #1 · answered by sparki777 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about asking your dad? He's been through this many times and he may have a great solution! Perhaps another minister can officiate the begining until your father can take his place at the altar after giving you away. Is anyone else in your family ordained? Or maybe the regular church minister can stand in for a few minutes. You could also let it be a surprise to everyone that your dad will do the honors. Everyone will gasp when he steps up after giving you away :-)
Best wishes!
2007-09-05 06:22:47 · answer #2 · answered by ETicket 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your wedding, and your decision, but have you considered letting your mother walk you down the isle. What about having another minister marry you and your dad enjoy the day as just the father of the bride. He may even feel more comfortable about that.
2007-09-04 20:05:08 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would first ask him what he'd like then discuss the practicalities of the situation. Does he really want to do both?
Could your dad suggest someone else to do the ceremony and just enjoy the day as Father of the Bride with no extra pressure!
2007-09-05 00:31:40 · answer #4 · answered by busy bee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your dad may appreciate the day off! Think of all the pressure he would be under to officiate the perfect ceremony for his daughter! Or, you could ask him to suggest a colleague so that he can have the honour of walking you down the aisle. Pressure's off, and he can celebrate just like everyone else is! Ask him his opinion on this, as they say, "daddy knows best" Good luck and congratulations on your upcoming marriage!
2007-09-04 20:06:24 · answer #5 · answered by i_8_the_canary 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want your dad to do the ceremony and walk you down the aisle you can still do that if you want. walk down with your dad and when you reach the end kiss him and take your fiance's arm. Then all three of you can bow at the alter and your father can walk up. You can have someone carry a cross in font of you and your father so its like a grand procession, While your finace waits at the front of the church.
2007-09-04 20:05:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi and congratulations!
Have your spoken with your father? Ask him which role or roles does he want to be a part of. He could do both. I don't see as there would be a problem with it. Sometimes fathers who are also ministers just want to be the "father of the bride" and not the "minister" for the day. However, if he wants to do both, there should be no problem. My suggestion is to ask him!
2007-09-05 07:00:32 · answer #7 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have your Dad walk you down the aisle and have another minister do the first part of the ceremony, than have your Dad do a Little part of the ceremony.
2007-09-04 21:19:52 · answer #8 · answered by ladyhawk8141 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With several ministers in the family, we have had this problem before. Simply have your fiance and groomsman at the front and let your father walk you. When you reach your fiance, your father can place your hand in his, step into his position as minister. When it gets to the part of "Who gives this woman", he can say " Her mother and I give her in marriage".
When my father remarried, my stepbrother was the minister. At the end, rather than say "you may kiss the bride", he suprised everyone with "you may now kiss my mother". The ceremony ended with laughter and applause.
2007-09-05 02:20:24 · answer #9 · answered by msbettyboop40 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is weird, I have the same problem! We are doing both (and I might have my mother walk me as well).
I think it totally depends on how he feels about it. You need to talk to him. My guess is that he has always dreamed about your wedding and he will want to do both! No matter what your religion, you can find a way to work it in. Everyone will understand and you will get some sweet smiles. Very special to have your dad so involved! Good luck.
2007-09-05 15:33:15 · answer #10 · answered by PixdeeArtist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋