alright, im a freshmen in college. this girl and i have known each other for 3 years, weve had ups and downs and dated in the past and over the last 6 months we have became very close friends. when we started hanging out again she had this boyfriend. she cheated on him at a party and felt guilty and broke up with him leading her to hang out with me more often. we would go on stereotypical dates alone together all the time and things were great..i just kept cautious because i didnt know if she liked me or was just being a friend..but we were really couply. a few days ago, her ex who she works with went to a concert with her and theyve hung out for a week or so and are now back together. this dude is 100% wrong for her, but im not to judge that. i really want to tell her in a mature way that i have feelings for her but dont want her to run away and not be my friend, because that is the most valuable thing to me..keeping her in my life.
2007-09-04 19:49:06 · 11 answers · asked by Allan L 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh hun, you have to tell her how you feel because she probably feels the same way! Especially if you guys are spending so much time together. Tell her now that way you can find out how she really feels. There is no reason to waste your time on someone who will never feel the same and no reason to waste time hanging out when you could be dating! Please tell her. It may be a huge weight off her chest if she's been wanting to say the same thing and if she doesn't then you are free to go find someone who will love you!!!! Good luck! :)
2007-09-04 19:58:07 · answer #1 · answered by Jessica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like the type of girl that constantly needs to be in a relationship in order to feel safe. If she is not in one she needs a friend to be there to support her. She doesnt sound like the type of independent girl that could make it on her own.
If she went back to her ex to see a concert and they got back together, chances are there was something there that made her think that the relationship was worth saving. She doesn't sound like she's interested in you other then a friend. If you really want to let her know how you feel just know that it's probably an inappropriate time to do so. She just got back with her BF... she's probably going to go out of her way to try to make it work. I would probably wait to tell her when her and her BF break up again which I'm guaranteeing its going to happen soon. Dont rush these things, sometimes timing is everything when it comes to telling someone how you feel.
2007-09-04 20:00:27 · answer #2 · answered by Kate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like someone, it is always worth it to let them know, even if a relationship does not emerge from it, it's better than never getting the chance to tell them how you feel. My best friend had a crush on me, and he thought I would never go for a guy like him because I always went back and forth with exes and other guys, but for the longest time I was completely oblivious to the fact that he had these feelings for me. When he finally told me how he felt, I was ecstatic because I realized that he had been the one there for me all along, and in the end that's what a girl wants. So tell her how you feel, you will never get a chance if you keep your mouth shut, and you will regret it later if you never revealed your secret because you would always wonder what could have happened. It's always worth a try. Good luck!
2007-09-04 19:58:25 · answer #3 · answered by candikisses0918 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her. In away I feel like she's just using you as a rebound but in a friend way. I don't think that you should date her because what if she cheated on you? Between your friendship and relationship, I would choose friendship. A friend lasts forever, well some do.
2007-09-04 19:58:41 · answer #4 · answered by D.C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So i guess you don't believe in the concept of once a cheater always a cheater eh...If you value her friendship, its better to stay that way with her. It sounded like when she lost her bf she ran to you and you may have been her rebound...Besides if she doesn't feel the same way with you, it might be a little awkward for you to be hanging out with her specially if she tells her bf that you have feelings for her.
2007-09-04 19:56:01 · answer #5 · answered by lvchic_702 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back off .. how would you feel if you were going steady with her and some guy was trying to get her away from you? If she cares for you she will seek you out .. obviously she does not have the same romantic feelings towards you that you have for her, otherwise she would not be going out with somebody else..
2007-09-04 19:57:03 · answer #6 · answered by MeInUSA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything until she splits up with him. Just tell her for now that if she ever decides to break up with him again , you would like to take her out on a date and show her how a good man would treat her.
2007-09-04 19:53:41 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude....if she cheats on him what makes you think you are going to be any different? You might also ruin your friendship by telling her your feelings.
2007-09-04 19:51:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
never be the spare tire.
either you treat her as a friend, abeit a close one, or find yourself a real gf.
time waits for no one, live it.
2007-09-04 19:58:11 · answer #9 · answered by ricodzeus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you should tell her...if not you will regret in your life...life is short man...come on ~
2007-09-04 19:55:29 · answer #10 · answered by Peace 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋