2007-09-04 19:31:45 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You cant if your mom cant tell you anything. Just dont worry about it Ive never meet my dad either, I know how yuo feel.
2007-09-04 19:37:44 · answer #1 · answered by Shandlan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How can a woman not remember the man that got her pregnant?! I mean, 20yrs of raising a child, one night stand or not, should not diminish the identity of the person who helped get her into that predicament!!
As if she wouldn't have pondered the question during the last 20yrs - one day my child will ask "who is my father?" Surely at some time there she got his name?? State?? City?? Looks like?? Friends?? Relatives?? Used to work for??
It sounds like an excuse to me. MAKE her remember. It is not fair on you, you are the innocent here, she doesn't get to choose now.
Good luck.
2007-09-05 02:41:29 · answer #2 · answered by Jen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. I mean, I suppose you could post newspaper and internet ads stating "Did you ahve a one night stand with (your mom's name) around this time in this year?" But the chances of success are almost zero. Why does it matter? He probably doesn't know you exist, nor would he want to at this point. The idea that blood is thicker than water is ridiculous. He has no claim on fatherhood to you, just as you have no real claim on "child"-hood to him.
2007-09-05 02:36:26 · answer #3 · answered by Qwyrx 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find that spot is you that is looking for recognition and love by someone who is connected like only a father can be connected and visualize how that person might look and be.
Than accept that image as a real person and love him like he was a father that did not get to raise you for reason undiscovered by you. You are real! Take that as a sign that you are born unto a mighty man and woman who loves you beyond expression and with the motivation to make you complete. You are now complete! Remember this when you feel lost! And, repeat, "I am whole, I am real, I am my father's child and my mother's child and they love me and I love my father and my mother!
Your parents love you!
2007-09-05 02:45:44 · answer #4 · answered by zclifton2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alex that would be like searching for a needle in the haystack. If it was a one nightstand he may not even remember your Mom or even know he got her pregnant. If it bothers you maybe need to talk to a therapist about it. Trust me you're not the only person born from a one night stand. It's crazy!!
2007-09-05 02:43:17 · answer #5 · answered by Carolina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, please explain to me in what way he is your 'real father.' Do you mean your biological father? Because your real father is the man who raised you. If only your mother raised you, then I'm sorry to say you don't have a 'real' father at all. A father is more than a sperm donor. That said, you could try telling your mother that you intend to begin interviewing everyone around her who she might have told his name at the time, unless she can remember it. That might embarrass her into giving you more details, because she won't want you asking around. You could try interviewing other family members to see if they know anything and also try advertising in your home town. However, your chances are pretty grim unless you bear a close resemblance to him, which is unlikely.
2007-09-05 02:37:59 · answer #6 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I find it very hard to believe that she doesn't remember. Giving birth is a life changing event. May not want to remember. If she still has the same friends as then, ask them or her mother.
2007-09-05 02:38:38 · answer #7 · answered by Pure Star 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't. The only remote chance would be if his DNA was taken because of a legal situation and you could get a court to authorize a search of the data base.
2007-09-05 02:34:51 · answer #8 · answered by Mike1942f 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never in that situation but does it really change anything if you do find your dad? Its been 20 yrs. If he hasn't found you, maybe there is no point. Just live "your own" life the way you want to.
2007-09-05 02:40:55 · answer #9 · answered by late4ever 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
scary, my dad once met someone at his work site. it was a young man who heard his name. he mentioned that his mother always talked about my dads name. my dad remembered that he went with that girl once. i was like oh sheet he has an older son. but my dad said don't worry, he doesn't look anything like him...then again a lot of people in my family don't look like one of their parents.
try giving your name and baby pictures, he might be searching for you. it would almost be impossible for your mother to not remember since it would usually be seared into her brain. well, good luck i hope you find your father. if he's an a hole. kick his a
2007-09-05 02:38:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋