Recently I am having some negative thoughts. I imagine i will not long live. How can i come from the thoughts?

Question

I very much feared about cancer. How shall I come our from the fear. Please help me about the negative thoughts. I love very much my husband. I don't lwant to leave him along in the world.

Answer 1

Eat a meatball EVERY DAY for a hundred years. If you do exactly that, you will live for quite a while.

Also, take some continuing education courses or something and get back into the world. Take a writing course or something and write a memoir.

Answer 2

(I gave this advice to another user as well...)
I have a list of some things you need to do (in order):
1) Get ahold of a Bible somehow. It doesn't matter if you're religious or not, just get a Bible!
2) Find a quiet place (a park bench or empty room is nice) where you can be alone for a while.
3) Even if you don't believe in a God, pray that He will reveal Himself to you. Tell Him you need help from your fear and don't know how to get away from it. Then by golly, open up that Bible! Start in the New Testament, Psalms, or Proverbs (they're all great places to start). As you read, if anything stands out to you, pray for God to show you what He wants you to learn from that.
4) Do this every day. Even if it's just 15 minutes, go for it!
5) Get plugged into a Christian church. I go to a Calvary Chapel, and it's a great God-fearing, truth-teaching church, and there are other Calvaries all over the world.
6) Don't lose heart! Jesus understands what you're going through! He was called a man of sorrows (Isaiah 53), but He was also full of joy, and wants us to be joyful as well! (John 15:11)
The only real way to live is if you are living for Christ, in a loving relationship with your Creator. Without that, you're not living; you're just existing. No one and nothing can help you escape from your fear, or fill the hole deep down; only Jesus can do that!
God bless you!


P.S. I'm not saying that following God will be all happy times and big smiles; it's still hard. But by leaning on Him for support, and trusting in His goodness, you can pull through hard times and be that much stronger because of it.

Answer 3

Hi, I'm so sorry to hear you're going through this. It sounds like you have a great supportive family who are there for you. Keep going with the medication as it can take a while for them to be fully effective in your system. The self harm is an addiction, (I work in counselling those who are addicted) and its just replacing the emotional pain you are in with physical and that's why it feels so good. I know there are rehabs you can go to (not scary places like you see in films) to get support with this. This will give you the space and support to look into why you're feeling like you do and how you can move on from there. Speak to you doctor or possibly social services for the funding. Dont suffer on like this on your own. Your story is close to my heart as my cousin comitted suicide 2 weeks ago and it breaks my heart to think anyone is going through this and cant find the light at the end of the tunnel. If you know it will eventually get better then that's a great start to getting through this. Try to keep a diary and rate how you feel each day out of 10, eventually this might show you that you have good days and bad. Then see why you had a good day and try to build on whatevers making you feel good. If you are holding on to some sort of grief or something you haven't confided in anyone then please let that go and talk to someone. You aren't alone, although you may feel you are sometimes. Keep talking to your counsellor and family as much as possible. x

Answer 4

If you already know you have cancer, then do all you can to treat it. Talk to your doctor about everything you can do about it.

If you don't have cancer and are just afraid you'll get it, then there's lots you can do. Whenever you think of it, force yourself to think of something else, such as your husband. Change your thought patterns and you'll find your mood changing, too. Life is scary for everyone. Cancer is a scary thing. But there's much more to life than being afraid. I had skin cancer last year and I'm doing fine. I do what I need to do to take care of myself and try to enjoy life the best I can. I hope you can, too.

Answer 5

My hart goes out to you as I to feel this way some times but I know these thoughts are anxiety related and I also need help with this problem. I try to sorround my self with positive thinkg people and some times it helps but unless some one has had a feeling of unfounded fear they dont uderstand. I will be praying for you the you will get peace good luck, john

Answer 6

Maybe do something to empower yourself, like change your diet and exercise, quit smoking, etc etc. Buy taking action to be healthy you will reduce your risk of getting cancer and that empowerment may reduce some of your fear. I mean there are children who have cancer and are happier and less afraid than you. Fear by itself will get you no where. Always look on the bright side of life :)

Answer 7

Do you have cancer now? Your question sounds as if you do, and you are not getting well.

When I was feeling very low emotionally, I found this. I read it over and over again. It gave me hope. I hope it gives you hope too.

"Look at the birds of the air.
They do not sow (plant seeds) or reap (pick grain)
or store away in barns.
and yet your Heavenly Father (God) feeds them.
Are you not much more valuable than they?" Matthew 6:26
from the Bible.

Answer 8

well first of all you have to relize that fear is not of god but of the devil.tell yourself that everytime you get scared.the devil has to flee when you tell him to and put an open bible by your bed that way at night when your trying to sleep the devil cant mess with you and get a check up that way you can call the devil a liar.i had the same problem trust me it works