I have a 2-1/2 year old daughter. Recently I have been observing a rapid decline in my health. My child is currently looked after my parents (I am working) since my in-laws have never been supportive. My husband however blindly follows whatever his mother instructs him to do, even at the cost of my health. All savings are currently done by me and I do not trust my husband to secure the future of my child. In the event of anything untoward happening to me, I would like my child to be cared for by my parents and my brother and NOT my mother-in-law or my husband. Can this be possible?
2007-09-04 19:15:48 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hi thanks to all for answering. My main aim to keep my child away from my inlaws. Obviously since after me, my husband will need some1 to raise her up, I want it to be my parents and not his. I say this becoz they r constantly bickering n comparing my child to her cousin who is about her age. In addition to this they have weird superstitions n customs which often frighten my child and I dont want her to live with this fear. So I dont mind my husband being her main caretaker but provided he lets my parents take care of my child. Can this be done 'only' if he consents to it or is there any other way? Pls help.
2007-09-04 20:28:57 · update #1
Not if your husband doesn't agree.
As a rule,. in most states, anytime a parent dies, the children go to the surviving spouse.
If you can get your husband to agree, then that makes it easier. You can create a trust fund for your child, giving your parents the authority to control the trust until she reaches age.
2007-09-04 19:32:16 · answer #1 · answered by Michael H 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Consult a lawyer. You probably can't keep the child from your husband unless he relinquishes his rights, which is unlikely. You could put your savings in a trust administered by your parents, but you're giving them the purse strings, not the rights to raise your child. You're also looking to create a really ugly custody fight after your death. Is that really what's best for your child? Really, you need to work with a lawyer on this.
2007-09-04 19:40:36 · answer #2 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's his child just as it is yours. He is the father.
You don't have a leg to stand on. Forgetaboutit!
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2007-09-04 19:30:31 · answer #3 · answered by Fade To Black 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋