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Question

I attend high school and I am very passionate about football(soccer). The trouble is that I have not played on many teams and I usually played street soccer. Many say that I have natural talent, and that I am a overall a very good player for the little experience I had on a real team. That said, I am going to try out for the team this year, yet I feel like I doubt myself in many ways such as not making the team, and if I were to make the team, I will not be able to see eye to eye with the other teammates due to the fact that many of the people that tryout and have been on the team are jerks. I know I have the potential to become a very good, player but sometimes I let in negative thoughts and people get the best of me, and I feel I need to get rid of that. any tips or guidance would be greatly appreciated.

Answer 1

every guy trying out for the team will feel the same way. Monitoring the input we give ourselves on a daily basis is important for self esteem. If you are constantly giving yourself ‘negative feedback’ or are on the receiving end of negative input from someone else this often makes a huge impact on how high or low your self-esteem will be. The people who have the most influence over how we feel about ourselves are our parents, spouses or a significant other.

Speaking positively, whether of yourself or over your life will affect how you feel and even how others view you. Even if you have a bad day, or make a dumb mistake – remember you’re only human! It is not to your benefit to tell everyone what a 'horrible job' you've done. It is not flattering to say "I'm so dumb!" "I can't do anything right!"

Tell yourself “I’m a good person.” “I am happy today.” “My family will be fine today.” Whatever it is that applies to you and how you’re feeling. Sopping up your worries, feeding on self pity, “poor me” – this will spill over into your life, your relationships, your thoughts. It will drive away many of your friends or potential friends because you then become an emotional burden for them. It is difficult enough in our own life sometimes to function than to have to be responsible for making someone else feel good, every day.

It is important to teach the young generation these points as well. Teenagers can become wrapped up in 'rescuing' another student or their boy/girlfriend. Though that is a noble effort, it does not help the other person to learn to be responsible for how they feel, they may become dependent on someone else for how they feel.

Answer 2

Think this:
Think beyond your present dreams, to the dreams you will have once they've already come true.

And when you can clearly see that life and those dreams in your mind's eye; how confident you will walk and how proud you will feel--Start walking and feeling like that today.

Thoughts become things....choose the good ones!

Answer 3

Think of and list people who would "cheer you on".
Go to each one, and tell them of your plan to try-out. Gain their input and encouragement.

If you meet others who intend to try-out, without an attitude, get together with the 2 or 3 of you and kick the ball around during lunch or after school - informally. This should boost your spirits and your confidence.